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Cristian Velasquez Ramos

I agree with your point that he felt the hurt by the fact someone who he admires shared a criticism of something he deemed to be toxic.

What I don’t understand is how you make the assumption that he respected and admired the original author of the article. Did he make that obvious somewhere (honest question)?

I had thought the article didn’t bother him because he actually did not respect it nor the author, so it was easy for him to disregard it. But since someone he admired shared the article, it was then that it became a more visceral response.

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Cher

I didn't say he respected and admired the author of the article.

That being said, there is a certain level of respect (not the admiration kind, but the leaving well enough alone and doing no harm kind) in simply not engaging with the author, which he was able to easily do given that the critique itself did not bother him.

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Cristian Velasquez Ramos

You wrote that “Sara has had to earn his respect and admiration, as a non-American woman of color, instead of getting it from default in-group bias”, so I understood that as being in contrast to the original author of the article.

It seems to me that personally considering what someone you admire/respect says is a common thing. If my wife tells me she doesn’t like what I’m wearing, that will prompt to reflect much more than if a stranger would to do the same.

Though I agree it was irresponsible to guilt trip on twitter.

 
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Cher

You're not disagreeing with me.

I said his issue was that she shared the critique at all - not the critique itself.

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