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Daniel S. Reichenbach

Fought most of my work-life with a similar issue, thus I have a few questions for you:

  • did you end up figuring out which of your personal traits lead you into this situation?
  • have you taken away learnings/actionable items from this? (you mentioned you'd do a lot different if you could turn back time)
  • is there anything that could have prevented the escalation to happen for your case? would you have listened to people warning you?
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Johannes Ask Me Anything

Great questions, thanks!

  • I'm not sure that I have really found the root cause to the issues I have, I think that a lot can be traced to my earlier family situation and a general control need from my side. I need quite obvious structures in my life, I need to know what is expected from me and such. You know, one of those people who actually enjoy having access to a good issue tracker ;) Without that, I become stressed and after a while it makes me depressed.

So tldr; yes and no! hehe

  • I would say yes to the second question, I think I have been able to easier feel when something is not worth sticking to. When to say no or stop and when to take a break. Good stuff to know even though not the most fun way to learn!

  • I'm not really sure, I think that I noticed it escalating and I think that I had people warning me, and in some way even myself knowing that it was not a good thing to keep on going, but I think that I - like I think that most of us do when dealing with mental issues - thought that I could handle it and that I was "strong" enough. Something that I have learnt the hard way that I'm not, and especially that it have nothing to do with strength, rather the other way around!

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Daniel S. Reichenbach

So, we can derive a strategy here: clearly express what you want and what you do not want without hesitation.

It is also the most difficult thing to do, when you are suffering from mental Health issues (in my case that was and is depression).

I hope you have a decent social network to support you. If anything helped me, it was having Friends/Family that are always there.

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Johannes Ask Me Anything

Yes, I think that is quite a good summary. It's especially hard to do that when you depend a lot on the job too, something that I luckily have not had a huge issue with, but I'm sure a whole lot of people do!
If you have a possible fallback plan, it's easier to make demands! :)

I'm lucky to have a great supportive family, people who have had similar issues and people who I know love me. Without that, I'm not sure what I would have been now.

I think that having people who support you - and a social network outside of work - might be one of the most important things when it comes to mental health issues, something that I dread that there are a lot of people who do not have.