The principle of charity is often missing from most online discussions in programming. I don't know if this is just specific to programming for whatever reason or if other fields have the same issues. I know the same happens in politics but for more obvious reasons. There is an inherent adversarial relationship already established whereas in programming there isn't such a context and the author is just sharing knowledge or insight.
Unlike you I've stopped bothering. When I notice an uncharitable interpretation of something I've written then I assume the commentor isn't worth my time.
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