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Jason Bunting

Seriously, there are so many people who abdicate their responsibility to own their reactions. The world, the weather, the randomness of our universe, etc. are not going to take into consideration one's feelings - so, the very obvious answer is to own one's reactions and realize one's freedom from "trauma" or "pain" comes down to cultivating one's ability to control one's perceptions. Nice people are nice, no doubt, but when someone "offends" you, realize where that offense took place: within you. If you truly "give no fucks," no one can hurt you, and that's when you have true power. Telling someone to learn how to talk differently so that you don't have hurt feelings is the most powerless position to be in.

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Ashlee (she/her)

You seem to really think your opinion is important since you’ve replied at least three times here to say the same thing over and over again. Which is that you think people should be able to say whatever they want and that whoever they’re saying it to should just deal with it. Being kind is free, by the way.

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Jason Bunting

You seem to really think your opinion is important since you’ve replied
at least three times here to say the same thing over and over again.

Looking over your own comments on this article, it's almost like you're describing yourself. Weird how that works, right? It's fascinating to observe our own behaviors and wonder why we do the things we do... "Know thyself"

Which is that you think people should be able to say whatever they want

Yes! Isn't that beautiful? That we can have freedom to say whatever we want? Some even felt it was so important, that they made it one of the rights governments seek to protect above all other rights. Seems brilliant to me. All should have the same freedom, but it seems odd that some would use that very freedom to tell others with the same that they shouldn't use it. But, that's freedom! Just gotta ignore those people, I suppose...

...and that whoever they’re saying it to should just deal with it.

Yes, they should. What if you didn't like the sound of birds, or the wind? What if a bird was chirping really loudly and the wind blowing fiercely while you were dealing with insomnia? That would suck, but you wouldn't realistically think that those things should heed your pleas to go silent, right? I mean, if you could control that, you'd end up feeling very alone... If all could be controlled by your command, you'd be more alone than you can even imagine.

Being kind is free, by the way.

Also a tender mercy of life, yes! The issue, as it is with all words, which are symbols for subjective abstract concepts, is that what being "kind" means is different for each person. Nick Lowe, for example, famously sang...

You've gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure
Cruel to be kind, it's a very good sign
Cruel to be kind, means that I love you, baby
(You've gotta be cruel)
You gotta be cruel to be kind

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Ashlee (she/her)

Look. Right to free speech was not created for the internet. It was created so the government couldn't silence you. I'm not debating with you whether or not people should be allowed to be abusive on the internet. There's nothing to debate. Sites have Code of Conducts for a reason and that reason is so everyone can peacefully and safely exist together on the internet.

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