re: Software People — How Do You Deal With Stress/Bullies/Frustration? VIEW POST

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I'm so sorry to hear this happening. If you are able to, and I highly recommend it, please talk to a therapist who'll coach you on ways to manage stress and work relationships. I have been kind of a doormat at some jobs, and more proactive in others. I've on and off done years of cognitive behavioural or mindfulness therapy--some were really unhelpful and sometimes useless to know about in the moment, but I eventually learned to recognize my own cognitive biases and when people were gaslighting or bullying. Think of it as a lifelong investment in your health. Never blame yourself or think of yourself as weak; you're not responsible for the stress work puts on you. Seems like workplace culture is a huge part of that, and quite telling if they don't make changes around inefficiencies or toxic behaviour...

I don't recommend Jordan Peterson’s book “12 Rules for Life” because he preaches a social dominance hierarchy and based on outdated pop psychology. The book read like a longwinded set of truisms your parents would want you to adopt. People who are anxious and deeply depressed need specific guidance for coping with stress, not to just "stand up with your shoulders straight" and "make friends with the right people"...

Just my 2 cents.

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