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🇫🇷 French translation: Com...
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Nicole (my partner), had to judo me a few times. I never intended to belittle her, but there were times that she felt belittled and I certainly appreciate that she is the type of person to call me out on things like that.
I did it out of "not being sure if my audience understood" given that most of the things I mansplained were technical in nature, so now I just take the approach of "assume everyone knows everything I do". Most folks are willing to say "what the heck are you talking about" or ask more pointed questions, but I feel like that is a better approach.
I do struggle a little bit to be aware of those that aren't comfortable asking for more explanation, but I feel it's a better problem to have.
I hope more people in life are willing to judo folks like me :D
It took me so long to finish the rest of your post because I was laughing at this statement nonstop. As someone who gives people the benefit of the doubt and tries to be polite as possible(I guess it comes from growing up in a culture where being nice is paramount, especially as a woman), setting boundaries is something that I have been working on, so thanks for reinforcing the importance of doing this, especially when dealing with “know-it-all” men.
This was hilarious and on point! Seems you are French, so I will now have to read the (presumably) original in French (occasionally nuance is difficult to transfer across the language boundary). Merci!
Just saw the French version and it is even more funny, kudos!
I absolutely loved "...vous pouriez mec-spliquer" 😂
mec-spliquer is a great translation coming from Quebec :)
I thought you wrote 'nachos' both times I read this 😂
I think you were reading while hungry 😋
Is it really something that only happens to women though? I don't think anyone in this field, regardless of gender, can honestly say that they have never encountered someone who explained things to them like they were stupid. Condescension and arrogance are by far the most common traits of developers unfortunately. I have not found much difference between genders when it comes to those traits.
Correct, this is the kind of things that happens to everyone and also it happens to affect the usual suspects (women, ...) even more