As a parent of 3, you nailed it. Especially as it relates to having priorities figured out (or hopefully anyways).
Being a parent has definitely taught me a lot of patience, and in many ways had helped me professionally. I can translate that into the workplace.
I'll second that about the patience...
While every person is different and you can meet real ass**es, who are also parents, from my observation - the people who spend more time in the office usually compensate for personal life issues. Of course there are exceptions, but this is my experience.
And of course the patience - you know NOTHING about patience until you have to deal with a 3 years old... ah wait, teenagers make the 3 years old look like cute kittens.
This matches up with my experiences. One of the most professional teams I ever worked on was mostly mothers. We all got to know each other pretty well and still keep in touch.
Was that because they were mothers, or just because they were good, professionally competent people?
The latter, certainly. The article explains why it is that being a parent could contribute to that. Anecdotes are only worth so much, but I shared because I tend to agree with the article.
This seems to be pretty narrow minded. The implication is that as somebody who's worked in tech for 25 years, but has no children, that I don't have perspective, can't be supportive, and don't have priorities figured out.
Perhaps we could stop writing tech blog posts about how parents/women/men/whites/blacks/gay/straight/conservative/liberal/old/young/etc people are better to work with, and understand that the key thing that makes a good workplace is a diverse range of people with different outlooks, priorities and perspectives?
That is not what she said at all, she is literally just pointing out the strength of one demographic that is usually looked over in tech. She is not saying it's to the exclusion of others (she even mentions that she isn't a parent herself).
mark: "we need a diverse range of people!"
also mark: "...please don't blog about any of those people"
Correction: "Please don't blog about a team of people who are good and attribute it to the fact that they are parents. It belittles their achievements, and misses the fact that they may just be good because they are good, and that having kids has nothing to do with it."
Totally different from my experience. Most of the time there hasn't been any major difference unless the person is someone who has lots of responsibilities inside the company, in that situation I have always found that there are two roads that go:
1 - that person was already capable of delegating and the team is used to take decisions by itself.
2 - that person micromanages everything, the team have no idea how to take decisions by itself and everything goes downhill in a spiral of chaos because that manager cannot handle two babies and, logically, just takes care of the human one.
Basically, I would boil it down to good professionals are unaffected by parenthood in their work while bad professionals multiply problems x10 under parenthood.
Thanks for the comment, Adrian. I am sorry to hear your experience has not been great 😥.
Obviously, every situation is different and I agree that having kids can bring out good and bad in people. In my experience, it has made my coworkers better which is why I wanted to share.
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