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alonedatascientist

Personally "loads of toxic gender bias" and "feminism" are for me as crypto buzz words are for you. As the target audience this would supposedly "benefit" i.e not only a person born female but also someone from the "rainbow coalition" ..it feels like a lot of empty virtue signaling. Its the crypto grift ..but for a different audience. I think most people had very good intentions when they started out on this crusade -- then they promptly shot themselves in their own feet by devoting copious amounts of time and energy to actual nonsense. They became incapable of having a technical conversation without dragging whatever their pet cause is into it. They started blindly reaffirming all the people who self identify as cats, colors, and vehicles again, afraid to call bullsh!t on bullsh!t this is because unfortunately the crowd most promoting "understanding" and "tolerance" .. is in actuality the least tolerant group of people I've ever encountered. Again, the best of intentions. But I've heard the road to hell is paved with those.

Have you ever considered that women perhaps don't want you playing the hero? That perhaps its a little sexist in itself to presume you were needed for this battle? Are women not capable of doing it themselves? I thought we were equal? You seem like a nice enough guy and this is not meant to be a personal attack in that regard. Again, I think you have the best of intentions. I just find it insulting and exhausting and 99% of the people who think their "helping" are not, they tend to be instead helping themselves and hoping society and their social circles will clap and call them a good person.

In reality everything moves on a pendulum so the swing to the far left will ultimately result in a swing to the hard right. In turn potentially creating a very unsafe environment for the people we were all intending to help. Many other women, trans people, and people of color are also tired of being used as people's "I'm a good person I help" chip. Its degrading. Its insulting. Its unhelpful. It often only serves to grow the ego of the "helper". Its become some peoples entire personality to the point that I now have good child hood friends I outright avoid because they can't make it through a 5 minute conversation without lecturing me about whatever cause is trending on Twitter this week.

Also ...Wikipedia is a terrible source and there are plenty of good reasons why most universities laugh at you if you cite it in a paper. The idea that "anyone can contribute to Wikipedia" died a long time ago -- most edits now come from a select group of ultimately nameless (may as well be, their names are meaningless to the crowd of readers) of power users. Meaning the entire site is being curated by people who frequently have no actual experience or knowledge of the topics they are in charge of editing. Meaning they are making calls about edits, etc without actually having any idea what they are talking about. If I want to know the details of Feminism I want them presented in an honest, unbiased, and factual manner. Wikipedia has proven numerous times to be incapable of such things. This is concerning particularly when so many people suggest it as a 100% valid source and cite it in their debates.

Have a great day sir.

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Jean-Michel (jmfayard.dev) • Edited

If I want to know the details of Feminism I want them presented in an honest, unbiased, and factual manner.

I do want to know the details so now I'm really curious.

Which litterature on feminism that is presented in an honest, unbiaised and factual manner have you read so far and can recommend to us?

In reality everything moves on a pendulum so the swing to the far left will ultimately result in a swing to the hard right.

The problem with the pendulum theory is that nobody is against feminism, or ever was apparently. They just think that feminism was good twenty years ago. But that was also the case twenty years ago. And twenty years before that.

Maybe we are right today, but how do we know it?