This is going to be unpopular, but you can't change him. He's an adult, he gets to make his decisions about how he wants to spend his time. Your job is to decide whether this is something you're willing to accept.
If the prospect of getting ill and not being able to take care of you and your family doesn't motivate him, I'm not sure anything you say will have an effect. It will just drive him further away from you because you're trying to control him. No one likes someone trying to control them.
In fact, that might be why it's getting harder and harder to distract him from the laptop. He doesn't like it when you tell him what he should do, so he's avoiding you.
I know you have your husband's best interest at heart. You love him. It hurts you to see him like this. But trying to control him doesn't work. You've tried, it doesn't work. If I knew how to help you control someone else, I would be the richest person on the planet.
It's time to have a close relationship with him as he is right now. From there, you can influence him.
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This is going to be unpopular, but you can't change him. He's an adult, he gets to make his decisions about how he wants to spend his time. Your job is to decide whether this is something you're willing to accept.
If the prospect of getting ill and not being able to take care of you and your family doesn't motivate him, I'm not sure anything you say will have an effect. It will just drive him further away from you because you're trying to control him. No one likes someone trying to control them.
In fact, that might be why it's getting harder and harder to distract him from the laptop. He doesn't like it when you tell him what he should do, so he's avoiding you.
I know you have your husband's best interest at heart. You love him. It hurts you to see him like this. But trying to control him doesn't work. You've tried, it doesn't work. If I knew how to help you control someone else, I would be the richest person on the planet.
It's time to have a close relationship with him as he is right now. From there, you can influence him.