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Discussion on: I Don't Know How To Take Compliments

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Kasey Speakman • Edited

It used to be impossible for me to take a compliment. I would always try to point out something I did wrong or could have done better to invalidate it. However, eventually I realized that the compliment (especially thanks) is a not an evaluation of me. It is an expression of the person's feeling at that moment. I might not deem my contribution worthy, but it is nonetheless their expression. From that perspective, I don't want to stifle them by trying to invalidate it. So nowadays I respond with a positive affirmation.

P.S. I just noticed you are in HSV too. 👋

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Jason Steinhauser

Another 256-er! 🍻

I think may be an effective strategy, to remember that their thanks is an expression of someone else's feelings. I'll have to give it a serious try. Thanks!

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Kasey Speakman

What are the odds, and both F# devs too.

Thanks!

😂

Anytime!

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Jason Steinhauser

Oh, nice! I only know one other F# developer in town from HuntFunc, the functional programmers monthly lunch and learn. There's not many of us in town surprisingly

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Kasey Speakman

Ah, cool. I'll have to check that out. I work in Decatur at the moment (live in Huntsville), so lunch would be difficult to make. But if it's open to visitors, I will drop by when I get a chance.

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Jason Steinhauser

We're definitely open to whoever wants to join us. I'll PM you more details