"Should we" questions always trouble me.
For most I find the answer to be "sometimes" or "depends."
Now can we? Probably not at first thought. Second, sure.
But I think even clinical psychopaths NOTICE what others think and care at least to find amusement, so anyone with even a degree more empathy will care a little more— even if that thought it rebuked by the strongest of Zen Buddhist Masters.
But should we? That is a good question.
Most would say if you are of the "success mindset" you should not.
If you are of a highly charitable mindset, such as religious, you would (at least for whom you have allegiance, and for whom you judge as good.)
I think the answer is ALWAYS YES ....for... certain people.
You SHOULD care, to some degree, what your own children and spouse thinks.
Even if you disagree, you should care that they care what they think.
You SHOULD care what your boss thinks about your work at your job.
You probably SHOULD care, usually, about what the POLICE or law enforcement think of your behavior IF you're trying to stay out of jail.
If you are running a business, you SHOULD care about what your customer thinks about your product, service, customer service, etc.
If you're in school or your children are, you should care about the teacher's feedback.
In this context, I remark CARE as "giving a damn somewhat."
Should you care what the public thinks?
I think in some cases, yes.
I think if you rail too far from public consensus, you would be asocial or antisocial... even perhaps qualify for Antisocial Personality Disorder (Psychopath/Sociopath) and as such, you may not make good relationships, garner trust, have customers, keep jobs, make any money... and you'll probably die.
I find that people that say you cannot care what people think are selling a lie. It's for people who care TOO MUCH to just aspire to care less so that they can strike a healthy balance between outward support and self-acceptance.
I see you put a question on "Should". is it because maybe it comes through as intense insistence a sort of authoritative enforcement??
"...and you'll probably die."
that quote brings to mind that we are herd animals. And depend on one another for survival. And that brings into consideration certain behavioural traits that are natural to the herd. And anything else that is alien may be a risk or hazard; as it is not normal to all of us and anything other than that could expose us all to harm like either illnesses and or enemies.-Imagine a goat that does not bleat like other goats.
the other goats probably thinking ;"is that dude really a goat?; what if he wolf".
Humans behave in the same way. they quickly disappear when they feel that you are gonna be a liability ,either beauty wise, intelligence wise, employment wise etc.
There is cases of animals abandoning their newly born and or hatchling. If they don't seem the same as them or herd .
That is why even when being hunted you will find animals like impalas showing off all together to show off how fit they are to the lion. Its a "ye never gonna catch me man!!!" and then the lion starts looking at other candidates that are not part of the common factor. It is about survival.
if you do not care to be like everyone else you risk sticking out. key word risk. and risk is of the extremes. very very good or very very bad.
That is why "not caring" is mostly relegated to the rock and roll stars and hip hop stars .....I cant be walking down the streets with no shoes on man cause I aint KAnye. I loooove Kanye...Im from South Africa. I can walk barefoot anytime but it is not the thing thing right now ! like for real.
There is many things that rock and roll stars can do that not you and I can. From every aspect of life to the way they dress.
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"Should we" questions always trouble me.
For most I find the answer to be "sometimes" or "depends."
Now can we? Probably not at first thought. Second, sure.
But I think even clinical psychopaths NOTICE what others think and care at least to find amusement, so anyone with even a degree more empathy will care a little more— even if that thought it rebuked by the strongest of Zen Buddhist Masters.
But should we? That is a good question.
Most would say if you are of the "success mindset" you should not.
If you are of a highly charitable mindset, such as religious, you would (at least for whom you have allegiance, and for whom you judge as good.)
I think the answer is ALWAYS YES ....for... certain people.
You SHOULD care, to some degree, what your own children and spouse thinks.
Even if you disagree, you should care that they care what they think.
You SHOULD care what your boss thinks about your work at your job.
You probably SHOULD care, usually, about what the POLICE or law enforcement think of your behavior IF you're trying to stay out of jail.
If you are running a business, you SHOULD care about what your customer thinks about your product, service, customer service, etc.
If you're in school or your children are, you should care about the teacher's feedback.
In this context, I remark CARE as "giving a damn somewhat."
Should you care what the public thinks?
I think in some cases, yes.
I think if you rail too far from public consensus, you would be asocial or antisocial... even perhaps qualify for Antisocial Personality Disorder (Psychopath/Sociopath) and as such, you may not make good relationships, garner trust, have customers, keep jobs, make any money... and you'll probably die.
I find that people that say you cannot care what people think are selling a lie. It's for people who care TOO MUCH to just aspire to care less so that they can strike a healthy balance between outward support and self-acceptance.
I see you put a question on "Should". is it because maybe it comes through as intense insistence a sort of authoritative enforcement??
that quote brings to mind that we are herd animals. And depend on one another for survival. And that brings into consideration certain behavioural traits that are natural to the herd. And anything else that is alien may be a risk or hazard; as it is not normal to all of us and anything other than that could expose us all to harm like either illnesses and or enemies.-Imagine a goat that does not bleat like other goats.
the other goats probably thinking ;"is that dude really a goat?; what if he wolf".
Humans behave in the same way. they quickly disappear when they feel that you are gonna be a liability ,either beauty wise, intelligence wise, employment wise etc.
There is cases of animals abandoning their newly born and or hatchling. If they don't seem the same as them or herd .
That is why even when being hunted you will find animals like impalas showing off all together to show off how fit they are to the lion. Its a "ye never gonna catch me man!!!" and then the lion starts looking at other candidates that are not part of the common factor. It is about survival.
if you do not care to be like everyone else you risk sticking out. key word risk. and risk is of the extremes. very very good or very very bad.
That is why "not caring" is mostly relegated to the rock and roll stars and hip hop stars .....I cant be walking down the streets with no shoes on man cause I aint KAnye. I loooove Kanye...Im from South Africa. I can walk barefoot anytime but it is not the thing thing right now ! like for real.
There is many things that rock and roll stars can do that not you and I can. From every aspect of life to the way they dress.