I would just note that the guy in the empathy cartoon was just a douche. Everyone knows you first tell someone they are an idiot then you proceed to tell them why they were being an idiot in your opinion, then you show them how to not do it like an idiot.
Then you better hide your own work because they will now obviously accept the challenge and try to catch you being an idiot. If they are over sensitive and actually feel that you hurt their feelings then maybe they need to #$ @##%$%$ *&&%$#.
Given of course you explained your initial reaction and they learned from the advice.
If you are explaining someone that they are wrong – what's the point of being rude in a first place. To feel empowered?
Hm, but actually If you are an impulsive person – then this will just happen uncontrollably.
Anyway what I was trying to illustrate was that rudeness doesn't bring any value and is actually detrimental.
Both negative and positive feedback are important parts of learning process. It's important to have them balanced, give too much of negative feedback – and the feedback loop might be ruined. I'm not talking about positive feedback here because it works a bit differently than negative. Negative feedback suppresses unwanted behavior and actually requires a change (in behavior). While positive just reinforces the existing behavior. This is why it's easier to make harm by excessive negative feedback.
Yip I am impulsive some would say snarky. But helpful.
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