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Congratulations!!! That is so exciting, but I definitely remember the terrifying feelings of having my first kid too!
First of all, you got this. Don't let doubt enter your mind. It'll be a little chaotic, at first. But it will start to become second nature.
Usually babies start out with sleeping during the day and being up at night (my theory is it's because in the womb when Mom is walking it is likely swaying them to sleep).
My advice is definitely coordinate a schedule with your wife - if she chooses to breast feed, it might be a little more challenging for you to help in the middle of the night, etc. So, keep that into consideration. Sleep when she sleeps for the first few weeks or take turns on duty. You can get creative and create apps that help you too!
Hopefully you are taking paternity leave, if so, once you've adjusted to having the baby (and baby is well and not colicky) the first few months are easiest (at least that is my personal opinion) because they eat, shit and sleep. It's when they start getting mobile that shit hits the fan.
Definitely lean in on people who offer to help - or consider a Mother's Aide to hire for help a few hours a day. You'll definitely want a bouncer (the ones that bounce on their own ) and a swing of some sort.
Each baby is so different so it's really hard to say what will work and wont work - but once you've adjusted and found the things she likes (ie like the way she likes to be swayed to sleep) you will find your own creative little hacks to things! Just keep asking for advice and help when you need it.
You got this!!!! 💪
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Congratulations!!! That is so exciting, but I definitely remember the terrifying feelings of having my first kid too!
First of all, you got this. Don't let doubt enter your mind. It'll be a little chaotic, at first. But it will start to become second nature.
Usually babies start out with sleeping during the day and being up at night (my theory is it's because in the womb when Mom is walking it is likely swaying them to sleep).
My advice is definitely coordinate a schedule with your wife - if she chooses to breast feed, it might be a little more challenging for you to help in the middle of the night, etc. So, keep that into consideration. Sleep when she sleeps for the first few weeks or take turns on duty. You can get creative and create apps that help you too!
Hopefully you are taking paternity leave, if so, once you've adjusted to having the baby (and baby is well and not colicky) the first few months are easiest (at least that is my personal opinion) because they eat, shit and sleep. It's when they start getting mobile that shit hits the fan.
Definitely lean in on people who offer to help - or consider a Mother's Aide to hire for help a few hours a day. You'll definitely want a bouncer (the ones that bounce on their own ) and a swing of some sort.
Each baby is so different so it's really hard to say what will work and wont work - but once you've adjusted and found the things she likes (ie like the way she likes to be swayed to sleep) you will find your own creative little hacks to things! Just keep asking for advice and help when you need it.
You got this!!!! 💪