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Well you can always give them a limited choice to do it.
I do that to my nieces like "you can pick up toys now and put it away" or "you can pick up it now and put it in that box" to let the kid choose.
If they are smart they will reject both but they still pick one and you hold them to it on doing it cause they had made a choice.
Most people are the same as they take ownership of the decision they make. So give it to them to take ownership. It's a sales technique that i learnt that was really helpful.
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my kids are 9 and 12 so they are already in that age where you don't know they are old enough to try to outsmart you and find valid excuses, or still small enough to be kind of naive and not understand the underlying message. :-)
The advice you are giving is very valuable. There is nothing better than having people take ownership, and it is very likely they will take it if they took the decision for themself.
There are lots of techniques to manipulate people to do what you want them to do. Especially within sales. I rry to start on the reason instead, why we are doing things. If the kids do not want a room that is tidy, they will not put in a effort. So first thing is to agree on the reason. Then how to get there, instructions. Being concrete when it reduces cognitive overhead. E.g. put the Lego in that box. When all done, celebrate somehow. Positive reinforcement is not bad when you've done something you actually wamted to achieve.
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agree even though, expecially with kids, but with coworkers as well, i dont like much the word manipulation nor I want to reduce everything to the simple equation precise-instruction --> expected-result.
My goal as a father and lead is having genuine conversations, shared goals, and most of all I'd really like to develop this *attitude of proactivity. *
Don't stop at the precise instruction, don't follow orders.
I want you to question what I am saying, to ask questions if in doubt, take initiative if you think it's worth it, even go against what I said if it makes no sense and you think your idea is best. But not just do what i said, and stop at the first (valid) excuse.
But yes, reducing cognitive load and positive reinforcements are all part of the process.
thanx
Max is a life enhancer for tech & entrepreneurship. Which seeks to blend both to build innovative products or services for the world that solves hard problems.
To me whatever works and help to teach a life skill to the kid. But giving options and having them to take ownership is better. I would rather want the person to get me out of the way. Let them do the work while updating to me, what they had learnt or the result of the things they are doing.
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Well you can always give them a limited choice to do it.
I do that to my nieces like "you can pick up toys now and put it away" or "you can pick up it now and put it in that box" to let the kid choose.
If they are smart they will reject both but they still pick one and you hold them to it on doing it cause they had made a choice.
Most people are the same as they take ownership of the decision they make. So give it to them to take ownership. It's a sales technique that i learnt that was really helpful.
my kids are 9 and 12 so they are already in that age where you don't know they are old enough to try to outsmart you and find valid excuses, or still small enough to be kind of naive and not understand the underlying message. :-)
The advice you are giving is very valuable. There is nothing better than having people take ownership, and it is very likely they will take it if they took the decision for themself.
There are lots of techniques to manipulate people to do what you want them to do. Especially within sales. I rry to start on the reason instead, why we are doing things. If the kids do not want a room that is tidy, they will not put in a effort. So first thing is to agree on the reason. Then how to get there, instructions. Being concrete when it reduces cognitive overhead. E.g. put the Lego in that box. When all done, celebrate somehow. Positive reinforcement is not bad when you've done something you actually wamted to achieve.
agree even though, expecially with kids, but with coworkers as well, i dont like much the word manipulation nor I want to reduce everything to the simple equation precise-instruction --> expected-result.
My goal as a father and lead is having genuine conversations, shared goals, and most of all I'd really like to develop this *attitude of proactivity. *
I want you to question what I am saying, to ask questions if in doubt, take initiative if you think it's worth it, even go against what I said if it makes no sense and you think your idea is best. But not just do what i said, and stop at the first (valid) excuse.
But yes, reducing cognitive load and positive reinforcements are all part of the process.
thanx
To me whatever works and help to teach a life skill to the kid. But giving options and having them to take ownership is better. I would rather want the person to get me out of the way. Let them do the work while updating to me, what they had learnt or the result of the things they are doing.