The one I relate to most is lying about how long things will take — specifically in the optimistic direction. There's a particular kind of lie where you know the estimate is wrong while you're saying it, but the social pressure of the room makes you say it anyway. What I've noticed is that it's way easier to be honest about estimates in async communication (a doc, a comment) than live in a planning meeting. The meeting format itself creates the lying. Has that matched your experience too or do you see it break down differently in remote vs in-office teams?
Oh, I absolutely used to do that myself 😄 Especially as a junior or mid. Sometimes I knew the estimate sounded too optimistic, but the atmosphere in the room kind of pushed everybody toward confidence.
Now I’ve gone almost completely in the opposite direction 😂 I’m the person constantly saying:
“this may take longer,”
“there are risks here,”
“what exactly do we mean by this requirement?”
and sometimes I ask the same clarification question twice just to be sure.
And funnily enough, the result was the exact opposite of what younger-me feared. People now see me as a great coworker and lead because they know I’m trying to surface problems early instead of pretending everything is easy.
Though to be fair, having more years in the industry probably helps too 😄
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The one I relate to most is lying about how long things will take — specifically in the optimistic direction. There's a particular kind of lie where you know the estimate is wrong while you're saying it, but the social pressure of the room makes you say it anyway. What I've noticed is that it's way easier to be honest about estimates in async communication (a doc, a comment) than live in a planning meeting. The meeting format itself creates the lying. Has that matched your experience too or do you see it break down differently in remote vs in-office teams?
Oh, I absolutely used to do that myself 😄 Especially as a junior or mid. Sometimes I knew the estimate sounded too optimistic, but the atmosphere in the room kind of pushed everybody toward confidence.
Now I’ve gone almost completely in the opposite direction 😂 I’m the person constantly saying:
“this may take longer,”
“there are risks here,”
“what exactly do we mean by this requirement?”
and sometimes I ask the same clarification question twice just to be sure.
And funnily enough, the result was the exact opposite of what younger-me feared. People now see me as a great coworker and lead because they know I’m trying to surface problems early instead of pretending everything is easy.
Though to be fair, having more years in the industry probably helps too 😄