I feel least pressured to "fake it" in contexts where I know my behavior won't be taken as characteristic of everyone who looks like me. I put on the least facade in media like IRC, where no race nor gender nor age nor cultural data is available about anyone until they choose to volunteer it.
I personally feel the greatest pressure to put on a facade when I believe that I was primarily invited to an event for my appearance, or to tick the "we have X% people from Y group" box. This happened constantly when I published a traditionally female name on my social media but has very nearly stopped once it occurred to me that I have the freedom to only offer people the information about myself that I want them to act on or discuss.
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I feel least pressured to "fake it" in contexts where I know my behavior won't be taken as characteristic of everyone who looks like me. I put on the least facade in media like IRC, where no race nor gender nor age nor cultural data is available about anyone until they choose to volunteer it.
I personally feel the greatest pressure to put on a facade when I believe that I was primarily invited to an event for my appearance, or to tick the "we have X% people from Y group" box. This happened constantly when I published a traditionally female name on my social media but has very nearly stopped once it occurred to me that I have the freedom to only offer people the information about myself that I want them to act on or discuss.