Hold on - I've just re-read my posts, but in all sincerity I can't imagine why any of them would be "problematic" - I seriously object to that qualification, and I'm kind of disappointed about it, because for all I know this was a respectful discussion throughout.
I'm not speaking for Joel, or for anyone else for that matter, only for myself, but to the best of my knowledge I have been (in those 3 or 4 comments):
respectful and empathetic
acknowledging that I'm mindful when it comes to gender (the example I gave about the new colleague demonstrated that)
not trying to attack anyone or anything, be aggressive or dismissive - the contrary I would say
Note that I only explained why personally I was using those particular pronouns in that particular example - I didn't give an opinion (let alone a dismissive one) about the terminology someone else wants to use, or about terminology that's recommended on dev.to for certain topics - I'm totally fine with all of that.
If my tone wasn't right, yes then you'd have a point - but I don't think that that was the case, at all.
I'm all for inclusiveness, and above all - respect, but calling people's moderate and nuanced comments "problematic" is, well, anything but, I would say ... honestly it irks me when I try to contribute to a discussion in a respectful way, and my contributions are put down as "problematic" ... case of pot and kettle, in my opinion.
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Hold on - I've just re-read my posts, but in all sincerity I can't imagine why any of them would be "problematic" - I seriously object to that qualification, and I'm kind of disappointed about it, because for all I know this was a respectful discussion throughout.
I'm not speaking for Joel, or for anyone else for that matter, only for myself, but to the best of my knowledge I have been (in those 3 or 4 comments):
Note that I only explained why personally I was using those particular pronouns in that particular example - I didn't give an opinion (let alone a dismissive one) about the terminology someone else wants to use, or about terminology that's recommended on dev.to for certain topics - I'm totally fine with all of that.
If my tone wasn't right, yes then you'd have a point - but I don't think that that was the case, at all.
I'm all for inclusiveness, and above all - respect, but calling people's moderate and nuanced comments "problematic" is, well, anything but, I would say ... honestly it irks me when I try to contribute to a discussion in a respectful way, and my contributions are put down as "problematic" ... case of pot and kettle, in my opinion.