I've never understood this practice of "taking the name" of your spouse.
In the most common tradition, the wife's last name just changes - it always seemed to me like she becomes "property" of the husband. Relic of a patriarchal society.
Your approach is far more advanced and respectful, but facing all those doubts and questions is a little silly IMO 😅
So my suggestion would be: just keep your original last names. It's your love that will show that you're married 😊
Many countries do that and they don't feel incapacitated just because they don't get to say "the Roys" or "the Greenfelds" when referring to a family.
Of course that would be too late for you folks. But I honestly don't know what to suggest.
By the way, in Spain the children get two last names by default 😉 It's still a little man-centric (the father's first surname comes first and that's the one that's inherited), but shows that there's plenty of traditions to get inspiration from.
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I've never understood this practice of "taking the name" of your spouse.
In the most common tradition, the wife's last name just changes - it always seemed to me like she becomes "property" of the husband. Relic of a patriarchal society.
Your approach is far more advanced and respectful, but facing all those doubts and questions is a little silly IMO 😅
So my suggestion would be: just keep your original last names. It's your love that will show that you're married 😊
Many countries do that and they don't feel incapacitated just because they don't get to say "the Roys" or "the Greenfelds" when referring to a family.
Of course that would be too late for you folks. But I honestly don't know what to suggest.
By the way, in Spain the children get two last names by default 😉 It's still a little man-centric (the father's first surname comes first and that's the one that's inherited), but shows that there's plenty of traditions to get inspiration from.