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This is great advice and its so easy to forget and let your frustration get the best of you! I also had a difficult sprint recently when my team was working with a client who didn't do a great job of communicating or providing the resources we needed to get the job done. The first week I let my frustration show and we didn't get any further in our project. This past week I kind of just sucked it up and responded to vague or rude communications with a lot of positivity. Instead of giving in to feelings of frustration or annoyance, my team was able to roll of our sleeves and take on whatever extra work was needed to get the job done. And we were rewarded with a successful feature delivery on Friday!
Nice! Congratulations on a successful release!
I always think about a scene from the movie The Martian, after he's had a huge, life-threatening setback, and he sits in his rover for a second. Has like 2 seconds of freakout, and then puts his game face on and goes back to work, solving the problems.
I have to remind myself that it's OK (and probably good) to have a bit of a fit when things get overwhelming, but at a certain point, the only way things get better is by getting things done, and the best thing to do is get to work and do my best.
Thanks for sharing! 😁
This is something I'm still learning. Rationally, I know it, and I'm improving at putting it in practice. Often, I made mistakes due to psychological issues, and I kept thinking: "How can I expect them to be understanding, when I don't even understand why I acted the way I did", and so I avoided confrontation at all cost. Ignoring messages, and avoiding contact, leads to even more anxiety, because you know that at some point, that confrontation will come. And as you said, people appreciate honesty.
One of the most important lessons I learned in my life.
Sometimes you or other people do bad things. Most of the time either without intention or because of wrong assumptions that only make these things seem wrong when resolved. Often, especially if you are the culprit, it even leads to a feeling of shame that can be mortifying.
If you go out and try to make them right, it's almost always better.
Confront people with it. Try to be the bigger person about it.
You don't have to be an asshole while doing so, but ignoring things is the kind of behavior that leads to getting people to talk bad about you behind your back, not doing the stuff you overlooked in the first place.
Definitely. My boss always says “I don’t care if you do stuff wrong as long as you’re learning from it. I just want to know about it right away so I don’t waste time debugging a problem that we already knew about!”
This is such a good post.
Thanks! I’m glad you liked it!