Youâre a founder. Youâve got urgency, vision, and a product to ship.
So why does it sometimes feel like your dev team is slow, resistant, or⌠just ignoring you?
Letâs be honest:
Most communication between non-technical founders and developers breaks down because youâre speaking different languages â but no one wants to admit it.
Hereâs how to talk to developers in a way that builds trust, clarity, and actual results (without sounding like a jerk or getting tuned out).
1. đ§ Donât Just Say What You Want â Explain Why You Want It
Bad:
âWe need a dark mode by Monday.â
Better:
âSome users are bouncing because the appâs too bright at night. Can we explore a way to reduce that friction?â
Developers are problem-solvers. If you share context, theyâll often come up with a better solution than what you were going to request.
2. đ Avoid Vague Time Pressure
Saying âASAPâ or âjust a small tweakâ without any clarity is the fastest way to get eye rolls.
Try this instead:
- Whatâs the deadline, and why does it matter?
- Is this a must-have or a nice-to-have?
- What trade-offs are acceptable?
Example:
âWeâre demoing to a big client Friday. If we canât fix the broken signup flow, thatâs a dealbreaker. Happy to postpone other tasks.â
Thatâs honest. Thatâs helpful. That gets prioritized.
3. đŹ Use Fewer Words, More Clarity
Founders often overexplain or underexplain.
Both are bad.
Try this format when making a request:
đŻ Goal: Make onboarding feel faster
đ Problem: Users drop off at the âinvite teamâ step
đĄ Suggestion: Can we move that step to later, or make it optional?
đ
Urgency: Would love this by next weekâs launch â is that realistic?
It gives direction without dictation. Thatâs how you get buy-in.
4. đ§âđť Respect the Craft
Imagine someone saying to you:
âHey, just throw together a pitch deck, shouldnât take more than an hour.â
Annoying, right?
Thatâs how it feels when founders say:
âItâs just a button.â
âHow hard can it be?â
âCanât you just add that real quick?â
Even if you donât understand why itâs complex, respect that it might be.
It builds trust â and avoids resentment.
5. đ Ask Before You Assume
If something feels slow, wrong, or off â donât jump to conclusions.
Bad:
âWhy is this taking so long? It shouldâve been done by now.â
Better:
âHey, curious if anythingâs blocking this. Is there anything I can do to help move it forward?â
One sounds accusatory. The other invites collaboration.
6. đ Feedback is Not Micromanagement (If You Frame It Right)
Devs arenât mind readers. Feedback is welcome â but only if itâs actionable, not personal.
â âThis looks bad. I donât like it.â
â
âUsers said the button was hard to find. Can we make it more prominent?â
Frame feedback as a shared goal, not a top-down command.
Final Thought: Communicate Like a Teammate, Not a Taskmaster
Your developers donât need you to write code.
They need you to:
- Communicate priorities clearly
- Give real user context
- Trust their problem-solving
- Respect their time and thinking
Talk like a partner â not a boss.
Thatâs how you build better software, together.
âď¸ I write about startup communication, product/dev collaboration, and building without burnout.
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