Live in the now

Muhammad Syuqri on October 20, 2018

I used to feel extremely exhausted everyday after work, which leaves me with barely any form of motivation to do anything. As a junior developer ... [Read Full]
 

Thank you so much for sharing this. It happens to a lot of people. It increases stress, reduces confidence, and deminishes your overall happiness.

I’ve been in this situation a few times now the past year: and I fully agree with the fundamental statement: live more in the now than spending time on your worries. Putting that to practice is a lot more difficult and is different for every person. Of course, there is a lot of common advice that will probably help for most people!

For me, “getting organized” usually solves things: get that inbox cleared, take notes of everything spinning in your mind. Try to get a clear head to “refresh” yourself.

However, if this turns out to be difficult and you keep delaying it: take a break from work or something in your personal life.

I’ve noticed that taking a few days off, or delegating a lot of things to other people (eg: ask for help) is the golden nugget to get out of the hole you might be digging deeper every day.

Be honest to yourself, and to your teammates and boss, and just step out for a little bit. A little breathing room is probably the best solution to “get organized”.

Again, thanks for posting! We need more honesty about this :)

 

Glad you found this post useful! I feel we as a community should share more about how we overcome these situations because it is clear that developers are not void of these thoughts.

delegating a lot of things to other people

Definitely will take this into consideration.. Many a times I feel it to be a hassle for me to transfer knowledge in order for another person to do the task at hand.. But it is definitely beneficial to have more minds working on a particular problem than just my own!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

 

Many a times I feel it to be a hassle for me to transfer knowledge in order for another person to do the task at hand.

Yes, I still feel that. However, if you do this and you practice it well you will be able to scale yourself (so more benefit for your team) and it will create mental space for you to spend more energy in the things that you need to spend energy on!

 

This is the essence of Mindfulness - the continued intention to fully show up for this moment as it is.

Many of our fears are not actually present in the here-and-now. They are mind-constructed episodes that live in the past or the future. Your mind is a wonderfully constructed, but badly calibrated, "what-if" machine. It's job is to present you with things to worry about.

I have a practice similar to the above, which I call "Thank you, mind". Whenever I find myself worrying about something persistently, I imagine myself having a conversation with my mind. Sometimes I'm shaking it's hand (it looks like a little cloud with eyes), and I simply say, "thank you, mind".

For some reason, this has a similar effect to writing down my worries. My mind feels like it's done its job, and chills out for a bit. You should try it!

 

Thanks for the tip! Definitely will try to incorporate it into my eliminate-worry routing :D

 

Let me know how you go! And send me any questions

 

Great post !

I've found that organization & planning are the enemies of stress and anxiety.

Too much to do, and don't know where to start ?

Organize your workload and setup a plan. It will clear your brain RAM and get you back to feeling productive :)

 

Exactly! Great point there.. too many a times we know theres a lot to do but not sure which to do first.. Setting up a plan certainly helps :)

 

This is awesome! I feel like I always worry too much, and get caught up in the what if details...thanks for sharing this!

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