Customer service training is obsessed with empathy. "Put yourself in the customer's shoes. Acknowledge their feelings. Show that you understand their frustration."
All good advice until it becomes performative rather than genuine.
I've listened to customer service representatives deliver scripted empathy responses that sound about as authentic as a politician's apology. "I can absolutely understand how frustrating that must be for you" delivered in the same tone they'd use to read the weather forecast.
Customers aren't stupid. They can tell when someone is following a script versus actually listening to their concern.
Worse, excessive empathy training often creates situations where representatives spend more time validating feelings than solving problems. A five-minute issue becomes a twenty-minute counseling session because they've been taught that emotional support is more important than practical solutions.
I worked with a telecommunications company where call times had increased 40% after implementing "empathy-focused" training. Customer satisfaction didn't improve because people were still waiting longer to get their actual problems resolved.
Sometimes customers don't want empathy. They want competence.
The "Always Say Yes" Disaster
One of the most damaging trends in customer service training is the idea that good service means never saying no to customer requests.
"Yes, we can definitely arrange that." "Absolutely, let me see what I can do." "Of course, the customer is always right."
This creates two major problems: overpromising and empowering unreasonable behavior.
I've seen businesses destroy their profitability by agreeing to every customer demand, no matter how unrealistic or costly. Staff trained to "always find a way to say yes" end up making commitments the business can't fulfill, leading to disappointed customers and frustrated employees.
Even worse, the "customer is always right" mentality encourages entitled behavior from people who learn they can get whatever they want by complaining loudly enough.
I watched a cafe owner in Adelaide let customers abuse his staff for months because his training consultant had convinced him that standing up to unreasonable demands would damage his reputation.
His reputation was already damaged - among decent customers who stopped coming because they didn't want to witness the circus.
Better approach: clear policies communicated politely but firmly, with genuine flexibility where it makes business sense.
"I understand this isn't what you hoped for. Here's what I can do within our policy, and here's why the policy exists."
Most reasonable customers appreciate honesty over false promises.
The Scripted Response Nightmare
Customer service scripts are supposed to ensure consistency and professionalism. In reality, they often make interactions feel robotic and impersonal.
"Thank you for calling [Company Name], my name is [Name], how can I provide you with excellent service today?"
Nobody talks like that in real life. Starting every conversation with obviously scripted language immediately signals that you're going to be talking to a process, not a person.
I worked with a insurance company where representatives were required to use specific phrases for every type of inquiry. The scripts were so detailed that experienced staff sounded less natural than new hires who hadn't fully memorized them yet.
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