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Great article, and a great collection of knowledge about arguments and disagreeing.
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Arguments are a really great way to help the people around you to get better, and to help yourself get better. At the end of the argument, at least one person will come out having learned something.
As long as it's a productive argument, fully agree.
Sometimes half the argument is getting to a place where you can understand what the other person is arguing for or about. But then you've both just learned how to empathize and understand each other, whether you disagree or not. What an awesome thing to learn!
More often than not, people aren't even disagreeing, just miscommunicating. Especially when working with people you're not incredibly familiar with, this is super key.
I like what you said about confidence in arguments...
The one danger is over confidence. The confidence should be genuine (doesn't mean you'll be right). This also doesn't mean you should be a perfectionist and only argue positions you completely can defend. The important part is to be aware of what you know before going in, that's confidence.
P.S. Your article is a bit meta... You argue that arguing is important, and use a lot of examples and knowledge (data) to support that argument; and that makes it a good argument. Nice
That's a very funny insight that I truly hadn't considered. Made me chuckle.
Thanks for reading the post and taking the time to give such great feedback!
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Glad to hear you enjoyed it.
As long as it's a productive argument, fully agree.
More often than not, people aren't even disagreeing, just miscommunicating. Especially when working with people you're not incredibly familiar with, this is super key.
The one danger is over confidence. The confidence should be genuine (doesn't mean you'll be right). This also doesn't mean you should be a perfectionist and only argue positions you completely can defend. The important part is to be aware of what you know before going in, that's confidence.
That's a very funny insight that I truly hadn't considered. Made me chuckle.
Thanks for reading the post and taking the time to give such great feedback!