title: [Book Sharing] The Art of the Mature Adult's Rebuttal: When Someone Sours You, Ridicules You, Suppresses You, or Sarcasticizes You, Instead of Silently Enduring, You Should Walk Up to the Other Person and Say This...
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The Art of the Mature Adult's Rebuttal
When someone sours you, ridicules you, suppresses you, or sarcasticizes you, instead of silently enduring, you should walk up to the other person and say this...
賢く「言い返す」技術 (The Art of Clever "Retorting")
Author: Tamami Katada
Translator: Fan-Chia Kuo
Publisher: Da-Shi Culture
Published Date: 2016/07/27
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# Preface:
This is the 5th book I finished reading in 2024. When I saw this book, I was thinking about how many people often like to be sarcastic, and how to respond positively and effectively?
# Content Summary:
Have you ever been "ridiculed" like this at work or in life...
◎ Senior colleague: "How many years have you been in society? You don't even know this!"
◎ Elder neighbor: "Why haven't you had children yet?"
◎ Supervisor always loves to reminisce: "So far, no one has been able to surpass my record."
◎ Friends like to complain and deflate me: "You don't look good in that outfit, I look much better in it..."
◎ Mom: "I'm saying this for your own good, do you think I like to nag..."
◎ Mother-in-law: "The dishes you make don't taste quite the same as ours..."
◎ Husband: "It's really easy being a housewife!"
◎ The highest guiding principle for rebuttal is "not to fight," to make the other person's attack fall through:
• Facing excited, loud verbal attacks, your tone of rebuttal must appear indifferent,
letting the other person know that it's pointless to continue.
• Verbal attackers want to see the other person hurt, and if you deviate from their expectations, the attack becomes worthless.
# Thoughts:
This book starts by analyzing some psychological states, and begins to analyze why some people want to "verbally bully" others, why they want to verbally bully others? Then think about what kind of psychological preparation and coping ideas you should have. Let everyone know that being obedient doesn't necessarily make the other person stop. Sometimes you can use ways such as changing the topic, refusing positively, or even retorting to let the other person know that you are not easy to bully.
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