We have two sons with my wife. Older one is 5,5 years and youngest one is just 9 months old. I always thought about the "process" of birth and after in Scrum stages - forming, storming, norming and performing. During "Forming" stage, the baby is still not born, you prepare for a new "team member" to arrive, you paint the room, buy cloths and such to be prepared. You still don't know (fully) what each team member will do after the birth. Especially with first baby. "Storming" phase is the birth and couple of days/weeks afterwards. Baby suddenly consumes all your free time. There are some conflicts between parents. After this "norming" phase comes. After couple of weeks, family is organized, everybody knows its place in team/family. Baby still consumes lot of free time but is already used to play alone so use this time wisely - reading books,watching e-learning courses and such. Try to go to sleep as soon as possible. After couple of months the family is again in "Performing" stage. Especially when baby can walk already alone. You can go to trips for longer distances without hearing crying the whole trip. But at the end - It's worth every single sleepless night, every single second spent with your kids, every moment you haven't spent on your career. Kids deserve it. Hug from them will pay back everything "bad". You will forget about these "bad" things and only remember the good ones. Career is just career. Family is the biggest "asset". Birth will not ruin your career, it will maybe just slightly slower it...
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We have two sons with my wife. Older one is 5,5 years and youngest one is just 9 months old. I always thought about the "process" of birth and after in Scrum stages - forming, storming, norming and performing. During "Forming" stage, the baby is still not born, you prepare for a new "team member" to arrive, you paint the room, buy cloths and such to be prepared. You still don't know (fully) what each team member will do after the birth. Especially with first baby. "Storming" phase is the birth and couple of days/weeks afterwards. Baby suddenly consumes all your free time. There are some conflicts between parents. After this "norming" phase comes. After couple of weeks, family is organized, everybody knows its place in team/family. Baby still consumes lot of free time but is already used to play alone so use this time wisely - reading books,watching e-learning courses and such. Try to go to sleep as soon as possible. After couple of months the family is again in "Performing" stage. Especially when baby can walk already alone. You can go to trips for longer distances without hearing crying the whole trip. But at the end - It's worth every single sleepless night, every single second spent with your kids, every moment you haven't spent on your career. Kids deserve it. Hug from them will pay back everything "bad". You will forget about these "bad" things and only remember the good ones. Career is just career. Family is the biggest "asset". Birth will not ruin your career, it will maybe just slightly slower it...