Dad of 2 month old boy here. You should discuss with your wife how you will divide time between yourselves.
It's a zero-sum game. If you take 8 hours to work/study, that means your wife has to manage the baby and everything else for those hours, when she might need to be resting and recovering from childbirth.
For myself, the baby needs to feed every 3-5 hours. He feeds for 20 mins, nods off for 30 min when he can't be burped, then wakes up crying and need to be burped for 15-30 mins, then a diaper change and coerced back to sleep with some crying every 30 mins 1-3 times per feeding where he needs additional burping times. After feeding him, my wife needs to pump out any extra milk for storage and that takes 15-30 mins. You can see that I need to be the one to take care of after-feeding activities with the baby or my wife can never sleep. Even so, the middle-of-night feedings are still really hard on both of us. So what I'm saying is just block off at least the first month or longer to support your wife who'll also be dealing with post-partum emotions/depression and really shouldn't be caring for the baby alone for long periods of time.
I can't give any advice for after 2 months since I'm not there yet. I really don't see how someone can get a lot done before the baby turns 1 where his wife wouldn't complain about it. Maybe that's during pre-covid times where parents and other caretakers could help out more.
Love this practical detailed answer. Super helpful. Remembering that time is a zero sum game is important.
Seems like that first month I need to be "All in" and support her all I can. I'm very thankful I have 3 weeks paternity leave when baby gets here. That should help a lot with me being able to support the wife.
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Dad of 2 month old boy here. You should discuss with your wife how you will divide time between yourselves.
It's a zero-sum game. If you take 8 hours to work/study, that means your wife has to manage the baby and everything else for those hours, when she might need to be resting and recovering from childbirth.
For myself, the baby needs to feed every 3-5 hours. He feeds for 20 mins, nods off for 30 min when he can't be burped, then wakes up crying and need to be burped for 15-30 mins, then a diaper change and coerced back to sleep with some crying every 30 mins 1-3 times per feeding where he needs additional burping times. After feeding him, my wife needs to pump out any extra milk for storage and that takes 15-30 mins. You can see that I need to be the one to take care of after-feeding activities with the baby or my wife can never sleep. Even so, the middle-of-night feedings are still really hard on both of us. So what I'm saying is just block off at least the first month or longer to support your wife who'll also be dealing with post-partum emotions/depression and really shouldn't be caring for the baby alone for long periods of time.
I can't give any advice for after 2 months since I'm not there yet. I really don't see how someone can get a lot done before the baby turns 1 where his wife wouldn't complain about it. Maybe that's during pre-covid times where parents and other caretakers could help out more.
Congrats! 2 Month old. Sheesh!
Love this practical detailed answer. Super helpful. Remembering that time is a zero sum game is important.
Seems like that first month I need to be "All in" and support her all I can. I'm very thankful I have 3 weeks paternity leave when baby gets here. That should help a lot with me being able to support the wife.