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Discussion on: Don't ask me, I'm a guesser

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Kasey Speakman

Thanks for posting this. I had never run across it before and it makes a ton of sense.

I tend to be a guesser around people in real life. But in the digital world I occasionally venture into the world of asking. It's actually quite stressful because I fear the other person will feel offended if they have to say no. Or they might think I will react negatively to their no. I almost always give them the out of "no is really quite okay."

Usually I am asking on the premise that if the universe aligns, they will be more than happy. (Example: They were just thinking about that very issue.) But if it doesn't, that is fine too.