I think you shoul actually talk about this with your wife. You both need to reach an agreement on when and how you are going to work/study, and when you are going to be taking care of the baby/do chores, etc.
I say this becaus you need to avoid things like feeling guilty because you are studying or working while you hear your wife struggling with the baby, the baby crying and screaming, things falling over and breaking, knowing that you could just get up and give her a hand, which some times you should do, of course, you are not in a sealed bunker, but you must try to draw a line somewhere. And obviously that same space and time should be available to your wife! Even if she doesn't work and is taking care of the baby full time, she will still need some time for herself.
You should start considering the possibility that you are just not going to have the same amount of time than before... ever. Or at least for a very very long time, and that's fine. You shouldn't feel preassure to be exactly as productive and to be able to do everything the exact same way as before, because 'before' is gone now, and now your life has changed.
First of all, congratulations!
I think you shoul actually talk about this with your wife. You both need to reach an agreement on when and how you are going to work/study, and when you are going to be taking care of the baby/do chores, etc.
I say this becaus you need to avoid things like feeling guilty because you are studying or working while you hear your wife struggling with the baby, the baby crying and screaming, things falling over and breaking, knowing that you could just get up and give her a hand, which some times you should do, of course, you are not in a sealed bunker, but you must try to draw a line somewhere. And obviously that same space and time should be available to your wife! Even if she doesn't work and is taking care of the baby full time, she will still need some time for herself.
You should start considering the possibility that you are just not going to have the same amount of time than before... ever. Or at least for a very very long time, and that's fine. You shouldn't feel preassure to be exactly as productive and to be able to do everything the exact same way as before, because 'before' is gone now, and now your life has changed.
Enjoy and good luck!
Really great thoughts, thanks fo taking the time to write this up.
Definitely having those conversations with the wife, and adjusting my expectations on how much time I'll get to invest in code.