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Yalda Khoshpey
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They asked me how confident I was I said 100%, because I know what I'm capable of

🌱 The First Spark

When I walked into that programming class, I was a complete beginner.

No GitHub, no HTML, no clue.

But I had something just as powerful:

A twin sister who inspired me.

She had already been coding for a year — self-taught, passionate, creative.

I saw how her eyes lit up when she spoke about CSS grids or React components.

And I thought:

I want to grow like that. I want to build like her.

So I joined the class, full of curiosity and full of belief in myself.


💯 The Confidence Question

During one of the first sessions, the teacher asked the class:

“From 1 to 100, how confident are you that you’ll succeed in tech?”

Only three people raised their hands with 100.

Me, my sister, and a boy.

He was praised for his confidence.

We weren’t.

Instead, the teacher looked at us and said:

“You girls seem a bit too sure. I’ll test you later.”

That moment hit hard.

It wasn’t just the words — it was the tone.

The doubt. The subtle warning.

Same confidence. Same ambition.

Different response — because of gender.


🧠 My Progress

But here’s the thing:

I wasn’t bluffing when I said 100%.

Within just a few sessions, I started catching up fast.

What once looked like chaos (syntax, tags, functions) began to feel like rhythm.

I found my way — and fell in love with frontend development.

I’m not arrogant. I know learning never ends.

My sister taught me that.

Knowledge isn’t a trophy — it’s a journey.


👭 Real Support Isn’t Gendered

That boy who also said “100%”?

He was new too. But he was passionate. Curious. He tried hard.

And my sister — instead of competing — helped him.

Because she saw motivation, not gender.

Because she believes, like I do, that:

🎓 Knowledge is sacred.

💬 Sharing it is powerful.

💗 Support doesn’t need labels.

We don’t need a system where only one person wins.

We need classrooms — and workspaces — where everyone is lifted.


🚪 Why We Left

Eventually, it became clear:

The class wasn’t there to teach us.

It was there to test us — not on code, but on patience.

The teacher questioned my sister more than anyone.

Not to push her forward — but to keep her in her place.

And that’s not education.

That’s gatekeeping.

So we walked out.

Not because we couldn’t keep up.

But because we didn’t need to prove our worth to someone who refused to see it.


💬 To the Girls Who Doubt Themselves

If you’ve ever been made to feel like you’re not technical enough

Or “just a beginner” — remember this:

You are allowed to believe in yourself.

You are allowed to take up space.

You are allowed to say “100%” — even on day one.

Confidence is not arrogance.

Ambition is not ego.

And gender is not a limitation.


🌍 What I Fight For

I believe in a tech world where:

  • Girls can be beginners without being dismissed.
  • Women are mentors, leaders, founders — not just exceptions.

Let’s build a future where:

📣 Passion matters more than gender.

📣 Kindness matters more than credentials.

📣 And support is given to anyone brave enough to try.


✨ Final Word

To every girl who dares to dream, code, and believe in herself:

Keep going. Keep learning. Keep glowing.

Your fire doesn’t need permission.

Your dream doesn’t need to shrink.

Say “100%” — and mean it.


👯‍♀️ With twin energy, full heart, and endless code —

github.com/YALDAKHOSHPEY

WomenInTech #BelieveInYourself #CodeLikeAGirl 💪✨

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Vida Khoshpey

🥺I will share this sisi💪🏻🥰

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Yalda Khoshpey

💋😍

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AquaScript Team

Hello!
I sent you a mail, did you see it

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Yalda Khoshpey

yeah i messaged you in discord

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AquaScript Team

Send me your and your sis. Gitter username