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Frederik 👨‍💻➡️🌐 Creemers

For me, Avoider is the biggest one of all, and it's the one I'm trying to work on. It's the one that has hindered me at my job and in school the most, and has damaged many relationships with others.

I get into a cycle where I procrastinate or neglect something, and think the other person might be angry or disappointed. Instead of bringing it up with them, I avoid their reaction, making the problem worse.

I'm slowly learning to deal with this by intercepting this cycle as early as possible. People are willing to cut you more slack than you think when you're open and honest with them.