This is one of the most uncomfortable things about the current political/social media life right now. Where there is strong division and these communication technologies we at a society are not great at using.
I don't think anyone is sure how to deal with this, but here's what I'd suggest: Seek allies who are close to the situation themselves. They might also not know how to deal with it, but if you open up a dialogue with others who are coming at it from the same perspective, you've made progress.
I'm privileged enough that I rarely have to feel personally threatened, but for what it's worth, I actively make use of "mute" functionality on social media when I need to disengage from people's beliefs without creating conflict.
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