re: I tracked a breakup in a database VIEW POST


Thanks for the shout out! This is such a fantastic post and I wish I could see the graphs of your results! So question: do you think the stabilization of your mood happened as a consequence of actively tracking your mood and following up on daily events? Looking forward to seeing more from you!


Thank you for your inspiring post!

To answer your question in short, yes. It seems like a necessary but not sufficient cause, at least in my experience. Long answer continues...

I desperately wanted stability and was willing to go to great lengths for it, this I believe helped me to log mood changes especially when I felt defeated or low.

The change came by in bursts of often humbling realizations of how I reacted instead of taking my time to respond, the logs showed my fears were consistently inflated. I learned to jokingly appreciate my strong imagination instead of giving it the entire stage and fearing it as a result.

I remember pausing before typing into the 'implications' after a few days of follow-ups. I had seen how my fears had played out in the past days (nothing came of them) and I made it a point to go back and read the notes again and again. As the evidence against my fears and reactions mounted, and since I was the one collecting it - I did not become defensive when accepting my mistakes and required changes. I suppose that's an important part as well.

I ran the experiment for several weeks, even after the breakup until my mood sort-of stabilized in the positive range. Watching the graph stabilize in itself was another boost, a clear feedback that I was on the correct path.

Hope this response helps!


Wow, that's awesome! Learning how to re-frame your perspective can be such a valuable tool. I'm gonna keep this bookmarked and come back to it

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