One of the duties I have at work is to mentor some of the Rails developers on our team. I enjoy this immensely, yet struggle with at the same tim...
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You can only share what you know and the experiences you have had. Just because you are and have been obsessive about learning technologies, doesn't mean you can't be a good mentor. Actually, the fact that you are imperfect helps make you a perfect mentor. Being a mentor means sharing your experience and knowledge but there is no obligation on the mentee to follow your path directly.
There are many ways to succeed in this industry - one of them is by obsessively learning and working as you and the others you mention do. You clearly recognize the trade offs this approach requires - so that is additional knowledge that you can share. There are other paths to success and you may be able to point to them even if you don't model them. Either way, it is up to the mentee to take what you share and create their own path - perhaps they are as obsessive about programming as you are or perhaps they aren't and succeed in other ways or perhaps they are fine not climbing the corporate ladder and see programming as just what pays the bills...who knows? It's their path and they are free to choose it.
The point is: share what you know as your experience. You are not telling them what they should do, just sharing what you have done and your reflections on that experience. Then step back and let them make their choices.
I am always improving as I work while also having time outside work, it might not be easy but it is possible. Therefore I expect my mentees to do the same.
You either fully commit to your job or don't commit at all (in the working hours). Work is also part of your life.
I have begun my development career as of late and have yet to acquire any mentoring in this field. All I've done and learned has been a result of reading, reading, and reading some more. I consider my obsession with my craft too healthy and wish to go more than the extra mile. Where would one find a repository of mentors?
It looks like dev.to has some new functionality that allows you to say you'd like a mentor. I haven't used it yet, but it sounds neat.
Also, your local meetups might help you meet people who would be willing to mentor you. Have you tried attending meetups?
Lastly, I know there was a push on Twitter a while ago for people to post that they are willing to accept mentees. I can't remember when that was or what the hashtag was, but you could probably find it!
Good luck!
No, I can't really recommend my path and I do not try to propagate it to mentees. I basically had no choice because there was no one around to teach me. So I had to learn most tech-related things by putting in the extra time to learn the hard way. Sometimes it was a fun exploration, but many times it was banging the head against the wall b/c it was not working and blocking users from work. I would have much preferred someone to apprentice me and teach me good practices to skip a lot of wasted effort. So that's what I try to do with co-workers when they ask. It is entirely possible that I just have a negative survivor bias.
By now I already have established an obsessive pattern of getting super interested in something, then researching it to death and turning it over in my mind endlessly. So it's too late for me, but I hope to save others who desire balance. ;) However, really driven people are going to put in extra time regardless. It is just in their nature.
If you really mentor, then you don't destroy, you also don't tell them how you did it. As a mentor you should be knowledgeable enough and social-skilled enough to figure out who is sitting in front of you. Try to read and understand them. And then, have the experience to figure out how to help them reaching THEIR next step.
So if you raise a child and the child is getting interested in music, you would help it to get some classes, maybe even a cheap guitar right? All with the knowledge it can fade away and that's totally fine.
All you do is guide, make suggestions and "force" them to step a bit out of their comfort zone and give them safety to do so. Encourage them to go their path.
Who says the person you mentor can't be "better" at what you do in much less time? So suggestion over-hours just means you expect they are as slow (or fast) as you in reaching your goals.
Generally, my approach is always to spark an interest. Not in programming but in figuring out how things work. Figuring out how things are connected. Finance, economy, biology etc. down to the programming language you use.
So get people interested in what they could build and do with the knowledge they are about to learn and get better at. Show them how they are connected. EXPECT that they figure out that most time spend in front of a computer or on an open source project might be wasted if they either a) are not as into it or b) figure out the grand scheme of life.
In the end, we forgot what good mentoring looks like, since it came mostly (at least in Europe) from senior people about the age of 60 or older. Those people looked back and figured out that human interaction and love are more valuable than a side project. But they see you struggle and try to help you reach the next step.
In my opinion, most "mentors" in the software engineering field are too young and too bound to their experience and think it's great just because of a few followers on GitHub or twitter.
In my opinion, if we talk about mentoring in a software engineering field, that's not mentoring but a senior developer helping a junior with their skills. Mentoring means guidance and empowerment, and this doesn't need to be in the same field as you are in.
Must be a Rails issue. )