We Upgrade Software Without Question. Why Don’t We Upgrade Ourselves?

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I don’t code.

But I spend my days around people who do — the late-night builders, the tab-vs-space philosophers, the “I’ll fix it in 5 minutes” liars (we all know it’s never 5 minutes :P).

And being surrounded by them taught me something no self-help book ever has:

Software updates constantly.
Humans avoid updating at all costs.

And that… makes no sense.

💻 In tech, upgrades are NORMAL. Expected. Celebrated.

If a framework updates every 3 weeks?
Cool.

If a library is deprecated?
Expected.

If you say “we’re rewriting everything”?
Tech people will complain — but they’ll do it.

If code breaks?
Fix it. Patch it. Improve it.
Nobody takes it personally.

But in life?

If you say:
“I need to change,”
suddenly it becomes:

scary
emotional
dramatic
intimidating

“what if people don’t like the new me?”

Imagine running your personal life the way tech people run their codebases:

iterate fast
admit flaws
patch weaknesses
push updates
remove what no longer works
improve what does
stop supporting old versions of yourself
build again when necessary
That’s growth.

🔧 Tech builders don’t fear change. They BUILD change.

This is the part that hit me the hardest.

I’ve seen developers:

throw away something they built yesterday because they found a better approach

refactor massive systems because they’re “not scalable” anymore

update dependencies without crying about the past

learn new tools without shame

proudly say “my old code was garbage” and then FIX IT

break things, improve them, break them again, eventually ship something great

No ego.
Just evolution.

Meanwhile humans cling to old versions of themselves like deprecated APIs.

Why??

⚡ People act like upgrading themselves is scary. But it’s scarier NOT to.

Staying the same forever isn’t stability.
It’s stagnation.

If code didn’t update, it would become:

slow
insecure
incompatible
outdated
unmaintainable
Sound familiar?

Humans experience the SAME THING when they refuse to grow.

You need:

emotional bug fixes
boundary patches
confidence updates
identity refactors
new mental frameworks
a better UX (how you show up)
and sometimes…
a full rewrite of who you thought you were supposed to be

💡 Being around passionate techies changed how I see myself

I watched people build things out of nothing.
Fix problems nobody else noticed.
Tear down and rebuild without hesitation.
Learn constantly.
Improve relentlessly.
Experiment.
Break things on purpose just to understand them.
CARE about their craft.

And suddenly, something clicked:

If software is allowed to evolve, then so am I.

I don’t need to be perfect.
I just need to be willing to update my system.

Version 1.0 of me doesn’t need to work in 2025.
Version 2.0 doesn’t need to match 2027.
And one day, I’ll look back at old versions and laugh — just like devs laugh at their old commits.

This community made growth feel normal.
Expected.
Human.

🧡 My new philosophy: update yourself like you update your code