I found that a very simple strategy works quite well (at least in France): state professionally but clearly ones feeling to the toxic person, in front of others. The 'secret' is that you are not obliged to hide your feelings, and many bullies rely on the fact you will not express your feelings.
So I have seen statements like 'I find very unpleasant you are always cutting my sentences when I am speaking', or 'I find your statement unjustly negative, I wonder if you have a personal issue with me, or a special reason to make this project of mine fail' work wonders, especially when expressed in front of a lot of people.
If you try to stay neutral and find a compromise, you will likely fail. Just expressing clearly your feelings works quite better as the bully 'scheme' is exposed in dailight.
Note that the bully is likely to answer in a way that will try to downgrade you, and you should probably have a few answer punchlines ready like 'it seems you are persisting with your ways, and I find that unacceptable'. It is worth preparing them, as, during the exchange, you may be quite emotional and not come up with an answer on the fly.
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Hi,
I found that a very simple strategy works quite well (at least in France): state professionally but clearly ones feeling to the toxic person, in front of others. The 'secret' is that you are not obliged to hide your feelings, and many bullies rely on the fact you will not express your feelings.
So I have seen statements like 'I find very unpleasant you are always cutting my sentences when I am speaking', or 'I find your statement unjustly negative, I wonder if you have a personal issue with me, or a special reason to make this project of mine fail' work wonders, especially when expressed in front of a lot of people.
If you try to stay neutral and find a compromise, you will likely fail. Just expressing clearly your feelings works quite better as the bully 'scheme' is exposed in dailight.
Note that the bully is likely to answer in a way that will try to downgrade you, and you should probably have a few answer punchlines ready like 'it seems you are persisting with your ways, and I find that unacceptable'. It is worth preparing them, as, during the exchange, you may be quite emotional and not come up with an answer on the fly.