When I first started learning how to code, I knew very little about the tech industry.
All I knew was that “FAANG” — Facebook, Amazon, Apple, Netflix, and Google — was where the best engineers ended up. They were the dream. The goal. The finish line.
I saw the job titles, the salaries, the stories of engineers who made it there at 19 or 20.
It felt impossible and inspiring at the same time.
And slowly, without realizing it, I began tying my own worth to that destination.
“If I don’t get into FAANG, am I even good enough?”
“If others can do it, why can’t I?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
I never said these questions out loud. But they were always there, quietly eating away at my confidence.
The Hidden Pressure We Don’t Talk About
Let’s be honest: FAANG has become more than just a collection of companies.
In our industry, it’s almost a status symbol.
Like a badge of honor, you wear to prove you’ve “made it.”
And because of that, we rarely question it. We just chase it.
We spend months grinding Leetcode, memorizing system design patterns, and reading interview guides.
We spend so much time trying to fit into the mold that we forget to ask ourselves:
“Do I even want this for the right reasons?”
“Or am I just afraid of falling behind?”
Yes, and that is my case.
My FAANG Story (Or... Lack of One)
I applied to multiple FAANG companies, more than once.
Sometimes I got ignored. Sometimes I made it to the final round, only to be told “no.”
Each rejection hit harder than the last.
Not because I lost the opportunity, but because I felt like I had lost my identity as a capable developer.
“If I’m not good enough for FAANG, maybe I’m just not good enough, period.”
It sounds irrational now. But back then, it felt real.
That’s the problem with one-size-fits-all success stories — they leave no room for people who are still figuring things out or for people who choose to take a different route entirely.
What I Learned From Not Getting In
In the beginning, I saw FAANG as the only path to validation.
But being rejected forced me to ask a harder question:
“If not FAANG, then what?”
“What else is out there — and could that also be meaningful?”
I started working on side projects on things that I love.
I made new friends.
I helped build tools that real people used, even if it wasn't at scale.
And slowly, something changed.
I realized that the joy of being a developer doesn’t come from where you work.
It comes from what you build.
From who you build it for.
From the tiny wins, the deep learnings, the hard lessons, and the late nights where something finally “clicks.”
The Truth About FAANG (That We Rarely Say Out Loud)
FAANG is not evil.
It’s full of talented engineers, incredible projects, and big opportunities.
If you get in — congratulations, you deserve it.
But we need to stop pretending that it’s the only path worth celebrating.
Because here’s the truth that I learned from a lot of people around me:
- Not everyone gets into FAANG.
- Many brilliant people don’t.
- Some never apply. Some never get past the first round.
- And some realize… they don’t even want it anymore.
And that’s okay.
Redefining What “Making It” Means
In the end, we all have to decide for ourselves what success looks like.
Is it a job title?
A company name?
A six-figure salary?
Or is it something quieter?
- Waking up excited to work on a problem you care about
- Sitting down for dinner with your family after a long day of work
- Laughing with friends on a Friday night, not thinking about code for once
None of these show up on LinkedIn headlines.
But they matter.
Sometimes more than you think.
If You’re Still Trying To “Make It” — Read This
Maybe you’re applying. Maybe you’ve been rejected.
Maybe you’re burnt out from the grind.
Or maybe you’ve already decided that you’re done chasing FAANG.
Wherever you are, you’re not alone.
And you are not less than anyone.
You don’t need a big name behind you to do meaningful work.
You don’t need a fancy offer to call yourself a real developer.
You don’t need validation from a company to believe in your craft.
You’re already enough.
And your story is just beginning.
Final Words
Not everyone gets into FAANG — and that’s okay.
What matters isn’t where you work.
It’s what you’re building, who you’re becoming, and how you choose to grow.
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