Wow, that's messed up. I'm sorry to hear :-(
I never used reddit. I always try to stay 100% clear of toxic Internet communities. Dev.to is luckily different (for now).
Do you think what happened to you was actually mansplaining and misogyny?
I think our male-dominated tech industry is especially harsh, presumptuous and judgmental towards women. They may feel threatened in their "I was first here" alpha status.
Thanks! To be honest, yeah. I think the way I look, my age, and my gender all play into that. As well as the fact that I talk a lot about beginner topics since I teach programming for my job. But I also see it happening to men in the industry sometimes, so it extends past those factors!
I'm sure you are right. And that might be unavoidable.
It was getting me down for a bit also, but after reading the comments on Eric Eliott's articles, I realized that it also happens to the best.
So it's really less a reflection of the author and more of a problem with the community.
But I agree that there are definitely people that will get it more than others. And even if we don't like it, humans always judge someone on appearance.
Having this discussion is healthy and this may contribute to a tipping point that creates change in the community.
Keep blogging on.
Agreed. It's important to keep the discussions about it going. It seems we live in times where people tend to lose the ability to empathize with each other. I personally think the Internet is to blame for it to some degree. Antisocial and toxic behavior is quite normalized there, and it seems to be spilling over to meat space :-/
I guess I can relate to what Ali and you mention. A couple of years ago I wanted to participate in the C and C++ tagged areas of Stackoverflow, but the leading community figures there set the bar way too high. There is a lot of intellectual snobbery going on. Didn't want to be part of it, and also made me very hesitant to jump in and help out others there, in fear of being attacked by some of those community members.
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