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Are you an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between?

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Jess Lee • Edited

An introvert that's trying to pick up the skill extroverts possess, so she can turn them on and off when necessary. It works sometimes.

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imrinzzzz

same here

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Damien Cosset

Introvert. Can't really be around many people for too long. I need my alone time to recharge and rest. I'll party once in a while, but I prefer small groups. I'm not too much into small talk either and I find it very difficult to avoid it in large groups :D

But, I guess to function in a society as an introvert, you have to "act" somewhere in between. I'm going to say our society really prefers extroverts.

Note: Great book about introverts => Quiet: The power of Introverts in a world that can't stop talking by Susan Cain. Just.Read.It!

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Shi Ling

Same here.

Used to think that being introverted is not ok, that there's something wrong with "Ok, I'm tired from being around people", and never really understood what one of my teacher once said that I had a "quiet confidence" either.

It wasn't until I read the book "Quiet" that I learnt that it's alright to be introverted and there's many strengths in being so too. I'd recommend reading it too.

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Seth Michael Larson

Definitely an extrovert. After a long day of being with people I don't feel exhausted and usually want to hang out more ASAP.

I wasn't always this way though! Sometime late in high-school a switch just flicked and suddenly 100% extroverted.

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Thais Hamilton

Extrovert

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Sam Ferree

Extrovert... So please leave me alone when I'm coding. I will engage and converse for far too long.

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Jess Lee

Ah, awesome. I've been meaning to try that for a while!

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John Paul Ada • Edited

Somewhere in the middle. We're called ambiverts, if that's a real thing. I usually just talk to my "tribe". I rarely go to parties, unless it's mandatory to attend. I like being in the office on weekends just coding away, or watching anime, or playing games by myself. When I need to talk to people, I wear this "hi I can talk to people" persona after counting to five, as per the five second rule.

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Moe

Yes very much describes me. I'm in the middle also. I love talking to people in small settings, but if it's too much social interactions like at conferences, it's draining. I really like being by myself watching anime and playing videogames, but I also like hanging out with close friends.

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Michael Minshew

I used to have to play in the middle but now that i'm unemployed/self-employed I've realized that I absolutely don't like people 99% of the time. I don't mind occasional meetups and I like the internet or texting where i can control when and where + think about how to respond. I used to think I was more extroverted because I was so at my previous job but i've been home 95% of the time for about 6 months now only seeing my wife and my dog and i've had very little desire to interact with people outside of the occasional internet posts and my mom.

when i stopped caring about what people thought about and realized that if i didn't maintain a relationship most fell away it made things easy. I embrace the 4 am, angry bearded programmer stereotype.

Maybe its because I know that if needed i can play well with others so if its not needed i don't care lol. idk.

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Rick

We are born of the same blood my friend.
(but i shaved my beard because I started to look thoreau)

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Paula Santamaría

Can I be a circumstantial extrovert? I usually feel confortable around people with the same interests and hobbies as me, so I laugh a lot, tell stories and jokes. But when I know people around me have completely different interests I instantly become an introvert.

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Nijeesh Joshy

Same here, Really hate when people asks me why i am wearing headphones or reading books when everyone else is talking.

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Daniel Kassen • Edited

I’m an intro-extro. I really like my alone time. Playin guitar, gaming on my own. I can go for days like that, although I’ll probably get bored and want to hang with someone. I’m one of the more talkative ones at work, and I’m always down to hang out after quittin’ time.