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are you suggesting i'm not going to be taken serious because i use a taco for an image? i mean come on everybody loves tacos :D
Haha! A taco is pretty memorable, mate. It works out pretty well on GH and DEV. Not sure it would fly on LinkedIn as the profile picture, though.
Hi Desiré,
I think you've misunderstood me. I never said not to wear dressers or skirts, nor did I imply that. I've known of several young aspiring professionals, men and women, who would dress in deliberately provocative ways — extremely short shorts or skin-tight pants, overly revealing shirts or blouses — for professional meetings. This is addressing that.
If you like dresses or skirts (assuming they're not deliberately provocative), by all means, wear them! Be you! Find your look.
I even said your outfit doesn't have to look like mine. I can't speak to dresses and skirts because I don't wear them. (And, ironically, if I'd suggested dresses and skirts outright in my article, someone else would be crawling down my throat because I was insinuating that women have to wear dresses.) That's why I described my outfit, and left everything else vague.
As to LinkedIn, I thought I included it! Maybe in the wrong place, though? Twitter can be good too. However, I have not needed either as much as I've needed email and phone for professional contacts, and in fact, got by without either being set up for professional correspondence for a number of years.
Hi Desiré,
I think 'seeking a romantic partner' is not that different from 'going on a date or to the club', so I don't see how one is insulting and the other isn't? In any case, I was not implying that it was the goal.
My phasing was a reminder that we should be aware of what messages we send to others by how we dress. No one wants to be ogled during a business meeting, and while the decision to ogle is solely on the other person, we can do a lot ourselves not to encourage it. Again, this isn't just women I'm talking about. I think we can agree it wouldn't be appropriate for a guy to go shirtless to a board meeting, because it's distracting and unprofessional. The same goes for provocative outfits on either gender.
This doesn't just apply to interviews. It applies to networking events, client meetings, business conferences, and the list goes on.
Again, that is something I neither stated nor implied. I think you're expecting me to imply certain things, and so you may be reading those in. (Standard human glitch. We all do that.)
The point I made is literally just don't dress in a way that distracts from your skills. I don't know, or particularly care, what the intention is. The intention actually doesn't even factor in. The fact is, provocative dress does run the risk of distracting even the most well-meaning other person, simply because it was designed for that specific purpose. We need to be mindful of that effect on people.
This is NOT excusing jerks who ogle and hit on people in professional settings. One is never "asking to be hit on" — that is crap. With that said, one should pay attention to what effect their outfit is likely to have on the ability of others to pay attention to what they're saying.
That is all. Nothing to read into it.
I once interviewed for a developer job and was told right in the interview that I wasn’t getting considered further specifically because I was dressed too nicely and didn’t look like a developer.
That HR guy was eventually let go from that company so I take solace in that.
Yipes. Glad that person got let go, too. His statement certainly demonstrated his prejudices about what a developer is, and that those prejudices probably came from watching too much Silicon Valley and Mr. Robot.
I find it funny that as I read your reply I'm literally wearing a Pied Piper T-shirt.
Hi Desiré,
Glad we're on the same page.
"Seeking a romantic partner" is not actually vulgar in English; I'm deliberately being vague about orientation, dating methods, etc, lest someone else get insulted for not being included. "Going to the club/on a date" would leave out many other scenarios. Being as vague and general as possible.
I agree that some people have weird ideas about what is "provocative", but you'll notice I never even used that term in the article! Again...
If your own culture would consider what you're wearing to be shockingly inappropriate, think twice. You can't cater to what everyone else thinks, but you can check yourself. (The reference to "Grandma Miller" is simply because grandmothers are often the ones who remind us of proper behavior in our own culture.)
You seem to have swapped 'professional' for 'productive' and gone off on a tangent about that.
Good writing skills benefit almost everyone. Ironically this paragraph was clunky to parse because of how it's written!
agree, sorry should stop writing stuff at 6AM in the morning :)
Consider Your Look -- I've only recently come around to how important this is. It made a huge difference for me, particularly in terms of confidence when talking to non-developers. I think the first step -- as is so often the case -- is awareness.
Thanks for the excellent article, Jason!
Professional Email (and Portfolio websites) are important, but I just keep procrastinating creating mine. 😕
I'm curious why? Is it a time constraint, not sure how to get started, lack of confidence?
I know I put mine off because I had too much else going on. Glad I finally did it, though!
I don't know everytime I start working on it, I feel like my time would be utilized better if I spent it on learning something new or building something more useful.
Ehh, but it is important to, I guess.
It certainly since, since it serves as a public showcase for all the other things you learn and build!
Calendar and speak well and spell well! I have seen far too many not know how to time manage themselves and lose potential clients over not being prepared to arrive early to their first meetings!
when to work and write actual code ? 😂😂😂
Most of the time! These are just additional habits that help with those non-code things you can't avoid in a career: formal meetings, interviews, yada yada. They don't take much time, relatively speaking.
Great article, great points. Thanks for putting this all down Jason.
Good stuff, man. Thanks so much!