I think 'seeking a romantic partner' is not that different from 'going on a date or to the club', so I don't see how one is insulting and the other isn't? In any case, I was not implying that it was the goal.
My phasing was a reminder that we should be aware of what messages we send to others by how we dress. No one wants to be ogled during a business meeting, and while the decision to ogle is solely on the other person, we can do a lot ourselves not to encourage it. Again, this isn't just women I'm talking about. I think we can agree it wouldn't be appropriate for a guy to go shirtless to a board meeting, because it's distracting and unprofessional. The same goes for provocative outfits on either gender.
This doesn't just apply to interviews. It applies to networking events, client meetings, business conferences, and the list goes on.
I feel you're insinuating (maybe specifically) that women would use their outfit to get attention and that they should better 'show off their skills', and I don't think that's appropiate neither.
Again, that is something I neither stated nor implied. I think you're expecting me to imply certain things, and so you may be reading those in. (Standard human glitch. We all do that.)
The point I made is literally just don't dress in a way that distracts from your skills. I don't know, or particularly care, what the intention is. The intention actually doesn't even factor in. The fact is, provocative dress does run the risk of distracting even the most well-meaning other person, simply because it was designed for that specific purpose. We need to be mindful of that effect on people.
This is NOT excusing jerks who ogle and hit on people in professional settings. One is never "asking to be hit on" — that is crap. With that said, one should pay attention to what effect their outfit is likely to have on the ability of others to pay attention to what they're saying.
That is all. Nothing to read into it.
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Hi Desiré,
I think 'seeking a romantic partner' is not that different from 'going on a date or to the club', so I don't see how one is insulting and the other isn't? In any case, I was not implying that it was the goal.
My phasing was a reminder that we should be aware of what messages we send to others by how we dress. No one wants to be ogled during a business meeting, and while the decision to ogle is solely on the other person, we can do a lot ourselves not to encourage it. Again, this isn't just women I'm talking about. I think we can agree it wouldn't be appropriate for a guy to go shirtless to a board meeting, because it's distracting and unprofessional. The same goes for provocative outfits on either gender.
This doesn't just apply to interviews. It applies to networking events, client meetings, business conferences, and the list goes on.
Again, that is something I neither stated nor implied. I think you're expecting me to imply certain things, and so you may be reading those in. (Standard human glitch. We all do that.)
The point I made is literally just don't dress in a way that distracts from your skills. I don't know, or particularly care, what the intention is. The intention actually doesn't even factor in. The fact is, provocative dress does run the risk of distracting even the most well-meaning other person, simply because it was designed for that specific purpose. We need to be mindful of that effect on people.
This is NOT excusing jerks who ogle and hit on people in professional settings. One is never "asking to be hit on" — that is crap. With that said, one should pay attention to what effect their outfit is likely to have on the ability of others to pay attention to what they're saying.
That is all. Nothing to read into it.