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Discussion on: How to refill someone’s “cup?”

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Jason C. McDonald • Edited

I'm a Type B who often gets mistaken for a Type A because I can be passionate, and do appreciate a good conversation. (I recharge in large part by being alone.) I tend to get along better with other Type Bs, because we tend to mutually "refill" each other.

When I get to talking with my best friend, also a definitive Type B, people listening sometimes wonder whether one person is monopolizing. Truth is, we take roughly equal turns...very long turns...because we both appreciate being able to share our deep and complex thoughts on a topic, and being able to listen to the other person in the same measure. This also isn't draining because we usually speak the same "language" as it were.

Yet, at the same time, neither of us are afraid of complete silence and long pauses. We don't need to fill the airtime, even on the phone. :)

Interacting with most other people doesn't have the same refreshing effect for us, since it requires so much effort to translate, parse, and then to figure out how to respond in their "language".