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Discussion on: How can open source contributors and maintainers engage in a respectful ongoing relationship?

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Desolo Sub Humus 🌎🌍

Don't assume a gender ... my husband has had that issue, though not as part of Open Source. In his case, Veteran's Affairs sent me a letter saying they do not acknowledge same-sex marriages, which is wrong, yes, but had nothing to do with our paperwork. His parents thought they gave him a good, wholesome, godly name, even if it does sound like a female stripper's perfect stage name. Then there's the people who ask me why I have a ponytail as a guy, which is weird, as I don't think I look like a guy, but maybe it's the absence of a pink, frou-frou dress with matching parasol throwing them off.

So, yes, absolutely that.

That said, if anyone feels like contributing to anything of mine, I'm willing to listen, but slow to respond (don't take it personally, I'm a 24/7 caregiver for a very high maintenance old woman, work full-time with a completely random schedule, and spare-time for coding or even basic communication is a rare treat. I'm also tab-vs-space agnostic, and I prefer to not have dependencies if it can be helped, as I like things that keep working even if someone else's project breaks. I also love giving people credit for what they do. As far as I'm concerned, working, robust contributions = a good chance of sainthood.