Conflicts of ideas is mostly good. It forces each side to think deeper.
Conflicts of personalities are hard. For me the best way is to disassociate if repeated attempts to come together fail. As I mature in this area I know my boundaries better and can remove damaging myself by removing myself earlier. That way my big mouth has no chance.
Yes...it's like a snake in the grass. I lost so many snake fights because my personality is to fight. Not any more, I just push back until I realize I need to stop. When I hit that wall, I simply shut down. It's easy to do when we realize there's a million other technical challenges we can focus on. My time is precious and it's not worth wasting.
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Conflicts of ideas is mostly good. It forces each side to think deeper.
Conflicts of personalities are hard. For me the best way is to disassociate if repeated attempts to come together fail. As I mature in this area I know my boundaries better and can remove damaging myself by removing myself earlier. That way my big mouth has no chance.
This clear separation of different types of conflicts is great. It's something I've been feeling but unable articulate. Thanks for sharing!
Yes...it's like a snake in the grass. I lost so many snake fights because my personality is to fight. Not any more, I just push back until I realize I need to stop. When I hit that wall, I simply shut down. It's easy to do when we realize there's a million other technical challenges we can focus on. My time is precious and it's not worth wasting.