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Hi Carly,
Nice article! I learned a lot.

Above you wrote:

If you’re sending someone a message, even if it’s just friendly conversation, lead with your intent; open-ended messages can stress people out, since they don’t know if it’s bad news, a request, or just chatter.

Could you elaborate on the idea of 'lead with your intent?'

TY ;))

 

Hey there!

I get a lot of well meaning chat messages/DMs that open with something like just “hey” or “sup carly” or (the worst:) “can we talk” and those messages trigger this knee-jerk terror response.

I know some folks use chat like they’re talking out loud, but I’d much prefer to know what a convo is about ASAP—so saying something like “hey, can we chat about the project timelines?” or “sup carly, just wanted to say I really like your nail polish color” or something like that is super helpful to me, since it forestalls my having to try and read tone without any inflection.

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