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Hey Max, thank you. Can you expand on your suggestion a little bit? I agree and I believe putting my ego aside is most important skill to puah myself to those awkward situations.

I simply do not care(or at least not enough to stop me) if I live my worst case scenario and get completely emberassed oe failed. Its reall not end of the world, literally. That's how I approached it and glad you brought it up as well.

Just curious how do you really see it?

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Max Ong Zong Bao • Edited

Ego can be a double edge sword for me i agree on your explanation, in fact, I do follow it as well. The other form of ego was more like a brilliant brat. Who thinks he knows everything and scoffs at people with a different idea or perspective or worst just responding with sarcasm.

It just reminds me of a colleague that I had worked previously. Who thinks he knows everything and just prefers my senior engineer as a single source of truth. Without diving deeper & studying the subject by himself. I usually dread working with people like them due to their closed mindset.

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That is super limiting tought and as you said it just generates a toxic relationship.

Maybe we can better word it as being modest. Also, if you abuse your status and treat people lower in the chain in a patronizing way such as sarcastic or worse, it really tells about that person's character.

I also mentioned, there are different types of smarts and pure 'smarts' is like more horsepower in a car but doesnt mean it can win a grand prix yet alone a championship :)

Besides, we must also acknowledge which I always try to do, not everyone is coming from same circumstances.

I may have had huge advantages over said person I possibly can't know, and him/her might have a whole bunch of other things going for them. Everyone is unique, so they should be treated as such.

Having said all of this there may be times, you may actually bang your head to the wall due to technical or intellectual capacity of a coworker. Even in those scenarios one is not allowed to be rude.

I feel you, I would feel exactly the same way as you do, if I had to work with people like that

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Max Ong Zong Bao • Edited

Yeah for me, I usually focus on just be a human and tactful in dealing with people. I do my best to be tactful and patience to people instead of talking down or worst just being sarcastic on it.