It's exceptional and a tragedy at the same time! Initially I reached out to anyone in my original network. Nothing, not much belief in that I could make it either.
But complete strangers, whom I've never met, helped me more than I ever could have thought.
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I've come across a variation of this idea lately - that most opportunities lie in your extended network, not the people who are closest to you, because they all know the same people and have access to the same opportunities. (I got this idea from Kelly Diels, to give credit where it is due.) This is an interesting twist: that they also might have the same (stale) ideas about what is possible for you.
Thank you for you input, I've also been thinking on the topic for a while. It could be also that there's jealousy at play as well. My thinking is that original networks will be making comparisons to each other, who's the more successful, who's making more money and the list goes on. If someone is taking a risk with a high reward, no one can say for sure if that person is going to be successful in that pursuit or not. But, if they are successful it might "put them ahead" in the competition, and people are much less likely to lend a hand. It will help the enemy so to say. Maybe we are keeping our enemies closest after all 🤔
In comparison if it's not someone in your direct network looking for help it does not impact you at all if they are successful. It does not infringe on your position in your current "pack". Also further, there's a slight chance of new opportunity if they do succeed.
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Totally agree on that
It's exceptional and a tragedy at the same time! Initially I reached out to anyone in my original network. Nothing, not much belief in that I could make it either.
But complete strangers, whom I've never met, helped me more than I ever could have thought.
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I've come across a variation of this idea lately - that most opportunities lie in your extended network, not the people who are closest to you, because they all know the same people and have access to the same opportunities. (I got this idea from Kelly Diels, to give credit where it is due.) This is an interesting twist: that they also might have the same (stale) ideas about what is possible for you.
Great post - thank you.
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Thank you for you input, I've also been thinking on the topic for a while. It could be also that there's jealousy at play as well. My thinking is that original networks will be making comparisons to each other, who's the more successful, who's making more money and the list goes on. If someone is taking a risk with a high reward, no one can say for sure if that person is going to be successful in that pursuit or not. But, if they are successful it might "put them ahead" in the competition, and people are much less likely to lend a hand. It will help the enemy so to say. Maybe we are keeping our enemies closest after all 🤔
In comparison if it's not someone in your direct network looking for help it does not impact you at all if they are successful. It does not infringe on your position in your current "pack". Also further, there's a slight chance of new opportunity if they do succeed.