I've run into the exact opposite problem :-( I've offered over and over to help save someone time on areas I've wrestled with or am advanced in. Inevitably I find they go and do their own thing. I partially blame myself for being too enthusiastic and giving too much technical details, but a large portion of it is the culture which has no real technical leads and has lots of silos. This results in a lot of parallel effort on similar tasks. Not sure what else I can do to help that beyond being approachable, offering, and sharing just the asked for minimum to help solve a pain point.
It's really hard to not go into more detail on topics I'm so passionate about and limit my help surely to solving one pain point for someone. I just like to make some inroads on this.
Yeah that's true. People approach problem solving in different ways. I personally like to seek feedback and advice from those who are more senior than me as they tend to have much better insights.
But I've also seen people who prefer to struggle on their own and "carve their own path" so to speak. That's certainly a way to learn as well. What worries me about that is the lack of accountability and feedback. It can lead to entrenched mentalities and bad habits.
In the end, I personally wouldn't worry too much about people not taking your advice. If you're especially advanced in a given field, many people would benefit from your experience. Whether or not they choose to accept your help is up to them.
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I've run into the exact opposite problem :-( I've offered over and over to help save someone time on areas I've wrestled with or am advanced in. Inevitably I find they go and do their own thing. I partially blame myself for being too enthusiastic and giving too much technical details, but a large portion of it is the culture which has no real technical leads and has lots of silos. This results in a lot of parallel effort on similar tasks. Not sure what else I can do to help that beyond being approachable, offering, and sharing just the asked for minimum to help solve a pain point.
It's really hard to not go into more detail on topics I'm so passionate about and limit my help surely to solving one pain point for someone. I just like to make some inroads on this.
Yeah that's true. People approach problem solving in different ways. I personally like to seek feedback and advice from those who are more senior than me as they tend to have much better insights.
But I've also seen people who prefer to struggle on their own and "carve their own path" so to speak. That's certainly a way to learn as well. What worries me about that is the lack of accountability and feedback. It can lead to entrenched mentalities and bad habits.
In the end, I personally wouldn't worry too much about people not taking your advice. If you're especially advanced in a given field, many people would benefit from your experience. Whether or not they choose to accept your help is up to them.