A question I hear people ask a lot is "How Do I Find a Mentor?"
I understand why you would want someone who can help you and has been on the same ...
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It feels like mentorship is a two-way street. You need to show a willingness to learn and to put in the effort.
I didnt have a "mentor" until I started putting myself out in the open.
I started contributing to Bridgetown , answering questions in the StimulusReflex discord server, willingness to open issues, dig through source code, etc. The big 3 mentors for me have been @jaredcwhite , @andrewmcodes , and @leastbad , each in their own way. I have been coding for 3 years, but only in the last 4-6 months or so did I break out of my shell and put myself out in the open and meet the above individuals, and I havent regretted it at all.
TLDR: If you never put yourself out there, you will never get anywhere.
well said, Konnor
I agree Maulik
In our experiences - it's easy to say you want a mentor - and it's really hard for people to actually show up. We've had the best luck - from both sides / when we put money on the table. It's weird... but it's like physical "respect." When you pay for it - you show up. We like to help people / and we also like to pay people. In the past - some of us have just reached out to our favorite internet personalities and said "Can I pay you to talk to me for 1 hour a week?" and we did - and it was good. We also like using CodeMentor - from both angles. For example, we don't use Rails - but sometimes... we have to - and so, we'll just get a rails expert to hang out with us for a few hours. That saves us thousands of dollars.
This is definitely a good start. To expand on this with my own experience as an older developer, one huge problem with the "go get yourself a mentor" advice is that it encourages young people to treat their colleagues as resources to use instead of people. And if you're going to treat the relationship transactionally, you get what you pay for, as in, if you don't give back in the relationship, you probably don't really have a mentor, just some person who secretly rolls their eyes when you call. That's why it's generally much easier to find a mentor at school: The teachers/professors/instructors are paid to be there.
If you can get rid of the transactional aspects, you're in even better shape. Nobody really hesitates to help a close friend or family member, because that relationship isn't about what one person gets from the other, for example. Making a friend who happens to have a lot more career experience than you do is a lot more valuable (along multiple dimensions) than someone you just consider a source of advice.
I just want to say, your post was so insightful and delivered real experience. Thank you and will love to read more ❤️
Thank you Tulsi!
What are your thoughts on a person's boss being their mentor? Do you think those relationships can work with the power dynamic at play?
I really enjoyed your post and learned from it. Thank you.
Hey Kyla! Thank you for reading. Great question I would say it depends. I would say my boss is one my mentors but he doesn’t exploit that power dynamic.
So it can work it just depends on the individuals
This is great advice, as always. Thanks!
Thanks a lot Josue
as i read this article and find something and so i could call the author mentor.
in my view, the key is yourself, just do it. there are so many fantastic source in internet, just search for
exactly! Authors are great people to views as mentors if they are teaching you something