This is gold! Thank you for sharing. What you've shared about rejection is something I need to memorize because I do feel like a failure when it happens. Hard not to take it personally but it's something to get over with to move forward.
Hey, no problem, I’m so pleased it helped.
The rejections part is just hard. The worst part is, it is technically, partly personal — after all it’s you that’s been rejected.
It’s not because you’re not good enough, you’re just not the fit (for each other!).
This mental shift in how you look at the situation takes time and practice, a bit like a mantra. But if you keep looking at things this way and focus your energy on opportunities that are the right fit, then you don’t waste your precious time and energy on stuff that ultimately isn’t worth it ☺️
It’s not failure; it’s just another lesson 😎
You got this!
So much positivity. I really appreciate this. Just to share that I was a developer many yrs ago and I shifted role about 8yrs ago. I've been actively picking up web dev skills the past couple of years. So recently there was an internal opening at my workplace and it left me flabbergasted. They asked about Linux, Jenkins and a whole load of stuff I don't know about (which weren't on my resume). I was really down afterwards and approached the hiring manager for feedback and he commented that if "I were serious", I'd pick up more skills. Maybe it was my naivety applying to that role and not taking the requirements more seriously, but I thought my effort thus far should've been factored in.. Like I've been volunteering in coding activities, taking part in the company's appmakers challenge (and winning), etc. I mean I could learn what they need but they don't want to give me a chance. It was like a real harsh slap on the face. I feel so much better now. So the timing of reading your article is really great for me. As you say, it's not a failure but a valuable lesson.
Yeah to me, that sounds like you’re better off for not getting it. There are some things that yes having certain skills are more on the important/necessary side, but the best places to work in my experience are the ones that care about your personality, attitude and general approach to coding — good with ideas, problem solving, working with shifting goal posts in diverse teams; not just people who have x experience with x technology (which changes so quickly).
Thank you for patiently responding to my rant. Your kinds words mean a lot to me. I'll share how my quest goes. Have a wonderful day Rob. :)
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