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Zachary Stone

"This isn't a commentary on Adam's intentions. This isn't a commentary on Adam's personal beliefs. This is a commentary on the systems we live in which empower a white man in our industry to publicly shame and guilt a Middle-Eastern woman and to expect certain behavior of that woman that white man does not expect of himself, nor of other white men."

I'm truly curious. Based on this edit, and I'm thankful you added this note.

Who is to blame for the actions? Adam? Or our society? If this isn't a commentary on Adams intentions and personal beliefs, then how does one be held accountable for their own actions? How do we call people to "do better" is morality only tied to culture acceptance?

These are big questions, I'll admit, I'm just trying to understand your perspective. Feel free to shoot me a message with your response if you don't want to create a thread.

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Who is to blame for the actions? Adam? Or our society?

I think we are accountable for our actions, and all of us are responsible for the framework that creates inequitable systems that allow this kind of behavior (especially only from certain people in certain power dynamics).

I think talking about it can solve both: if I'm hurt by critique from someone, I recall those conversations and consider my expectations of the other person and whether or not I'm being uncharitable due to some inherit bias I have, and what kind of impact engaging with this person would have in my current state of mind. Often time this introspection, regardless of power dynamics, give me the space to cool off and recognize I was being irrational before I acted on it, ensuring no one is harmed because of how I felt in some fleeting moment.

For me personally, I realized I always did this when I was personally hurt by men, because I was focusing on how my reaction could impact myself, and now after learning about systemic oppression and biases, I force myself to be just as thoughtful in situations where I am not afraid of what could happen to me as a result.

I do think there's a two-fold outcome here, of course, and that is not only hoping everyone becomes more introspective, but that we start holding everyone accountable equally.

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Zachary Stone

Thank you for the very well thought out response. I appreciate you taking the time and explaining and addressing the questions I raised. As a conservative, I strive to not allow traditional thinking to not allow progressive change from coming in and bringing justice, where justice is needed. I believe the polarizing and downright political heated discussions that go on constantly make it exhausting to hear a coherent argument.

I don't agree with everything taught is systematic oppression, but I do believe oppression occurs quite often. And I admire your desire to stop it, even if we may or may not agree with how it came to be, why it's still happening, and how we are ultimately stop it for good.

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